I Wore A Dress to the Market

While Disney World is purported to be the “Happiest Place on Earth,” I have the happiest job on earth. Imagine being able to be a part of planning a couple’s wedding; up to that point, the best day in both their lives. But then…the Pandemic of 2020 hit.

Not only are poor couples forced to change their wedding day plans, or reschedule entirely; the job, which once gave me so much joy, has become a source of sadness. Instead of speaking with excited, giddy brides, I am, at best, speaking with disappointed ones.

I found myself out of sorts, and of course worried about my family and friends’ health and that of the world. My family was patient and kind, but frankly, had their own pandemic challenges: working from home with a houseful, as well as going to school on-line. We all had to make compromises.

I am not novel in declaring that, I had more time to do the “simple things”, more time to “get things organized,” more time to “connect with both family, in my home, and friends from afar.”  Yes, I did all those things, but I also decided to step outside the box.

I have never been a formal person, I’ll go run errands, do my marketing in sweats or exercise wear. So I decided that I was going to start dressing up for my only event, the grocery store. I began to look forward to my wardrobe selections, and plan what outfits I’d wear. It gave me something to anticipate, and got my mind off feeling sorry for myself.

Yes… I wore a dress, (or two), to the market. This may not be your thing, (maybe this was already your norm!), maybe you’ll enjoy cooking during this new normal,  (I oddly enough, have!). But if  you’re so inclined, pick something to get yourself out of your funk. I don’t think there’s anyone among us who has escaped some level of ennui. My message is: do something for yourself, and don’t feel you must do what everyone else is. We are all different, and different things please us. Find your happy thing.

Enjoy what we have, and what’s to come. It’s all we have.

And to my brides, both present and future out there, we will get though this. Sending my love.

Below, Mary in a dress. 🙂

 

 

 

Virtual Wedding ?

 

How to Plan a Virtual Wedding

So you’re worried that your wedding won’t happen because of the pandemic. Think you’re out of options? Think again. You DO have options. You will have to change the paradigm of what you thought your wedding would be, but you can still get married, and do it well.

Option A:

Elope.  Seem old-fashioned? It is. An elopement is something our great-grandparents did. But you can do it with a few modern-day tweaks. Make sure you get your marriage license is obtained  where you  choose to get married. A courthouse is a  good place to start.  Call ahead and confirm hours have not changed due to our new reality.

Option B:

Reschedule for a later date. This is disappointing and a lot of work. But if you’re looking for your dream wedding with no changes except the date, it’s your best bet. My concern? What is to insure you won’t be rescheduling again in six months?

If you go this route, talk to your venue and vendors about penalties, rebooking costs, and their availability.

Option C:

Get married in a simple manner now, then hold a big party a year to year and a half from now. While not guaranteed to be trouble free, your new plans have less chance of interruption again.

Option D:

A virtual wedding. WHAT?  Yes, it’s a thing. This option, life anything else, takes planning.

  • First, make sure your vendors are available.
  • Next, inform your guests of the new date. I suggest doing this via email, or even better, an e-invite such as https://www.paperlesspost.com I’ve used this company for many occasions, and you can often select e-invites for free!
  • Make sure you have whatever tech gear you may need.
  • Choose the platform you wish to use. A quick google search will give you options.
  • Make sure all your ducks are in a row.  Have you decorated as you wish? Are you wedding clothes ready?
  • Say, “I Do!”

 

https://thebudgetsavvybride.com/how-to-plan-a-virtual-wedding/

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Check your state’s requirements for virtual weddings, While virtual weddings are a way to allow guests to view your wedding who can’t attend, your state most likely will require your officiant to be physically present, as well as witnesses.

How To Virtually Plan and Live Stream Your Wedding

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Virtual Wedding Expo: Fancy That Cake - TheWeddingRing.ca

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My Mom and Dad were early adapters.  Here they are viewing my oldest’s wedding in New England from the comfort of their home in California.