Not seeing each other on the wedding day UNTIL the ceremony. I’d say about half of the weddings I worked on this summer had a “First Look” photo session. “What is this?”, you may ask. It’s a pre-ceremony photo shoot of the bride, groom, sometimes attendants and family. Why is this done? So the principles can get right to cocktail hour and party with their guests. But I prefer the first look below (my daughter, Maggie and son-in-law, Robert). Could there be a sweeter look, or one filled with more love, than the look Rob gives his bride when he first sees her? I love this photo.
With four daughters, I am all for “hosting a more simple reception”! In the 50’s and 60’s, wedding receptions were often just punch and cake. And really why not? When did it become the norm to serve a full cocktail hour, and a five course dinner to our wedding guests? Truly not necessary. Enjoyable, yes, but necessary…no.
3. Taking a month long Honeymoon – I could totally get behind this one! How dreamy to take an extended honeymoon with your new husband! But this was back in the day when couples didn’t live together years before they said, “I do.” Say what you want about the practicality of this arrangement, it DOES take some of the sparkle away from setting up your home as “husband and wife”.
Where do you think the term, “Morning Suit” came from? From the British and their tradition of morning weddings, to include a “Wedding Breakfast”. This would help keep the cost of a reception down as well. While you may have a Bloody Mary or Mimosa request from a guest or two, your bar tab would be significantly less. Even the beautiful royal couple, William and Kate, had a morning affair!
Lost Wedding Traditions…A family member sent me an article a few days ago about “Classic Wedding Traditions That Should Be Brought Back” from ‘Country Living Magazine’. Click on the link if you’d like to read the whole article. I picked my favorites, and will share with you. 🙂
Making a “Grand Exit”. Yes, brides and grooms these days want the photo of a “Grand Exit” but do they really leave? No. There is more often than not an “After Party”. For those of us from an older generation, this is how it works: The younger set moves onto another location and they continue partying with the bride and groom. But I LOVE the old time glamour of waving the bride and groom off as they start their new life together.
The bride in the above photo is pictured in her gown, AND her going away suit. Remember those, ‘ladies of a certain age’? I had a going away suit, and a posy of my favorite flowers, violets, to pin on it.
2. Freezing a slice, or the top tier, of your wedding cake. I did this, and so did my girls. But I think it is becoming a thing of the past. Most weddings I worked on this summer had a different dessert from the traditional cake. And those who had cake? Well, they didn’t freeze any of it. Think you may like to freeze YOUR cake? Click on the link to a previous blog post, Preserving the Top Tier of Your Wedding Cake Do you need help defrosting your cake? Click on the next link: Defrosting the Top Tier of Your Wedding Cake
Above, daughter Maggie’s wedding cake. If you’re going to freeze a tier, make sure you get an extra one, as Maggie did, so you don’t have to freeze too much. You just need a bit, but it will be taste better if you freeze an entire section. Photo cred: Patty Cloherty
3. Serve a Groom’s Cake. Now this really IS a thing of the past. I have been married lost 33 years, and none of my friends had a “Groom’s cake. If you’d like to read more about this luscious option, click on the link Groom’s Cake.
The history of the wedding veil… Do you know why a bride wears one? I wore one, and most of my generation did. It was important to my mother, and well, important to me too. There is something so symbolic about your new husband raising that veil and placing a chaste kiss upon your lips.
But..why is it done? According to Wikipedia, “The lifting of the veil was often a part of ancient weddingritual, symbolizing the groom taking possession of the wife, either as lover or as property, or the revelation of the bride by her parents to the groom for his approval. In Judaism, the tradition of wearing a veil dates back to biblical times.” Wikipedia
Today’s bride may choose to wear some sort of headpiece, but not a veil, like the photo above. And even if she chooses to wear a veil, it often doesn’t cover her face. Another source tells us:
“The veil and the bouquet that a bride carries may predate the wearing of white. Although there is no definitive reason for the wearing of a veil, many surmise it has to do with ancient Greeks and Romans’ fear of evil spirits and demons. In fact, this is where many of the bridal traditions actually come from, including bridesmaids wearing similar dresses in order to serve as decoys for the bride. In an effort to frighten away or disguise the bride from evil spirits, brides-to-be were dressed in brightly colored fabrics like red and obscured by a veil. But in many cases, the veil prevented the bride from seeing well. That is why her father or another person “gave her away.” He was actually escorting her down the aisle so she wouldn’t bump or trip into anything. The veil also served as a method of shielding the bride’s face from her future husband, especially in the cases of arranged marriages.
Superstition has it that it is bad luck for the groom to see the bride prior to the wedding. A veil hiding her face also ensured that the groom would not see his soon-to-be-betrothed up until the ceremony.
Eventually the meaning behind the veil transformed as weddings evolved into religious ceremonies. The veil came to symbolize modesty and obedience. In many religions it is seen as a symbol of reverence for women to cover their heads. When white wedding dresses were worn to symbolize chastity, the white veil followed suit.
Regardless of the origins, veils continue to be sported by today’s brides, who choose from a few different styles. A flyaway is a short veil that ends at the shoulders, while a sweep veil ends at the floor. Chapel and cathedral veils follow the bride at a significant length (nine and 12 feet, respectively). A blusher is a very short veil that covers just the bride’s face as she enters the ceremony. With a fingertip veil, the veil reaches the bride’s waist and brushes at her fingertips.
The veil should coordinate with the style of the gown, and many wedding attire consultants suggest choosing the gown prior to the headpiece and veil.”Richmond.com
Please enjoy viewing two iconic wedding veils below.
MORE Romantic Wedding Veil Photos … My most recent post about romantic wedding veils photos was well received, so I thought I’d showcase a few more. The next two photos are from the photographer/artist, Hannah Colt. If you click on the link under the first two photos, you’ll be taken to her website.
Hannah Colt Photos – if you’re interested in her work, leave a moment here, and I’ll connect you, or check her out on Facebook – Hannah Rachael Colt
Hannah was the photographer at my oldest daughter, KK’s wedding. Hannah is such a magician she even separated me from my iPhone for about 15 minutes. A feat few have accomplished. 🙂 We couldn’t have been happier with her work.
So what makes a photo a standout? I think it’s the element of the ‘exceptional’. Just take the photo above. Few veils these days have such pattern. The inclusion of the patterned lace work over this beautiful bride’s face adds the dimension of the exceptional. And the flowered wreath barely visible underneath the veil, exquisite.
Jewelry and headpieces can add to the overall drama of a bride’s ensemble. I adore the above headband the bride is wearing. Her veil is settled flat on her head, but the jeweled tiara adds the bridal “umpth” she is looking for.
Patty Cloherty Photos
And don’t forget the back view of your veil. Believe it or not, your guests may see more of your back than your front at your ceremony. Remember to incorporate a look that is pleasing to both views. This last photo is of my second daughter and her charming new husband walking back down the aisle as a newly married couple. You can barely see the photographer in the aisle ahead of them. But Patty Cloherty, the groom’s talented aunt, captured this beautiful shot. One of my favorites.