I Wore A Dress to the Market

While Disney World is purported to be the “Happiest Place on Earth,” I have the happiest job on earth. Imagine being able to be a part of planning a couple’s wedding; up to that point, the best day in both their lives. But then…the Pandemic of 2020 hit.

Not only are poor couples forced to change their wedding day plans, or reschedule entirely; the job, which once gave me so much joy, has become a source of sadness. Instead of speaking with excited, giddy brides, I am, at best, speaking with disappointed ones.

I found myself out of sorts, and of course worried about my family and friends’ health and that of the world. My family was patient and kind, but frankly, had their own pandemic challenges: working from home with a houseful, as well as going to school on-line. We all had to make compromises.

I am not novel in declaring that, I had more time to do the “simple things”, more time to “get things organized,” more time to “connect with both family, in my home, and friends from afar.”  Yes, I did all those things, but I also decided to step outside the box.

I have never been a formal person, I’ll go run errands, do my marketing in sweats or exercise wear. So I decided that I was going to start dressing up for my only event, the grocery store. I began to look forward to my wardrobe selections, and plan what outfits I’d wear. It gave me something to anticipate, and got my mind off feeling sorry for myself.

Yes… I wore a dress, (or two), to the market. This may not be your thing, (maybe this was already your norm!), maybe you’ll enjoy cooking during this new normal,  (I oddly enough, have!). But if  you’re so inclined, pick something to get yourself out of your funk. I don’t think there’s anyone among us who has escaped some level of ennui. My message is: do something for yourself, and don’t feel you must do what everyone else is. We are all different, and different things please us. Find your happy thing.

Enjoy what we have, and what’s to come. It’s all we have.

And to my brides, both present and future out there, we will get though this. Sending my love.

Below, Mary in a dress. 🙂

 

 

 

Virtual Wedding ?

 

How to Plan a Virtual Wedding

So you’re worried that your wedding won’t happen because of the pandemic. Think you’re out of options? Think again. You DO have options. You will have to change the paradigm of what you thought your wedding would be, but you can still get married, and do it well.

Option A:

Elope.  Seem old-fashioned? It is. An elopement is something our great-grandparents did. But you can do it with a few modern-day tweaks. Make sure you get your marriage license is obtained  where you  choose to get married. A courthouse is a  good place to start.  Call ahead and confirm hours have not changed due to our new reality.

Option B:

Reschedule for a later date. This is disappointing and a lot of work. But if you’re looking for your dream wedding with no changes except the date, it’s your best bet. My concern? What is to insure you won’t be rescheduling again in six months?

If you go this route, talk to your venue and vendors about penalties, rebooking costs, and their availability.

Option C:

Get married in a simple manner now, then hold a big party a year to year and a half from now. While not guaranteed to be trouble free, your new plans have less chance of interruption again.

Option D:

A virtual wedding. WHAT?  Yes, it’s a thing. This option, life anything else, takes planning.

  • First, make sure your vendors are available.
  • Next, inform your guests of the new date. I suggest doing this via email, or even better, an e-invite such as https://www.paperlesspost.com I’ve used this company for many occasions, and you can often select e-invites for free!
  • Make sure you have whatever tech gear you may need.
  • Choose the platform you wish to use. A quick google search will give you options.
  • Make sure all your ducks are in a row.  Have you decorated as you wish? Are you wedding clothes ready?
  • Say, “I Do!”

 

https://thebudgetsavvybride.com/how-to-plan-a-virtual-wedding/

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Check your state’s requirements for virtual weddings, While virtual weddings are a way to allow guests to view your wedding who can’t attend, your state most likely will require your officiant to be physically present, as well as witnesses.

How To Virtually Plan and Live Stream Your Wedding

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Virtual Wedding Expo: Fancy That Cake - TheWeddingRing.ca

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My Mom and Dad were early adapters.  Here they are viewing my oldest’s wedding in New England from the comfort of their home in California.

Blue Jewelry For Your Wedding?

I wrote a post about Blue Wedding Shoes, (if you’d like to read it, just click on the link), but how about blue jewelry for your wedding?  We all know the old saying, “Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue.”  It seems to be one of the traditions that most brides are still adhering to.  Lots of brides are choosing blue wedding shoes, both my daughters did.  I love this idea!  But how about blue jewelry?  Love, love the ring below.

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White gold, diamond, platinum and sapphire bands

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Want to go with a gemstone that is a little more traditional?  The above photo with all the sapphires makes my heart swoon!  I love rings that I can stack.

Beading Tutorial Emerald Earrings Jewelry Tutorial Bead | Etsy

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If you choose to go necklace free, then these earrings are for you.  I’m not a fan of BOTH necklaces AND earrings, unless are very understated.  You want your guests, to focus on you, not your jewelry.  Remember, your jewelry should compliment you and your style, not dominate it.

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More rings above.  I do think I prefer the sapphires mixed with diamonds…

 

Stack 'em up! Love the classic combination of diamond and sapphire bands with an Art Deco engagement ring. Click to see more eternity bands.

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If I had it to do over again, I’d choose a wedding band with colored stones.  I love the combination above.  Remember, as with all things in your wedding, there is not right or wrong, unless you hurt feelings.  Your wedding day is all about your choices and your taste.  So have fun with it!  Take a step on the wild side if you want.  No matter what you’re choosing, from food to venue, if you like it, and your fiance does, go for it!  Hopefully, this is a once in a life time event.  Don’t have second thoughts!

Edible…Wedding Bouquets?

The concept for “Edible Bouquets” is not new.  Isn’t there even a chain store that specializes in such things?  But Edible…Wedding Bouquets? That’s a new one for me.  What do you think of the idea below?  Cotton candy as a wedding prop instead of flowers?  Novel, yes, attractive (in my humble opinion…no).  But it does create a cute scenario for a photo op.

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Seriously??  A PIZZA bouquet?  This bride must know the way to her groom’s heart!  I think sometimes people are searching for something new to do to make their weddings stand out, but they run the risk of doing something silly….like this!  🙂  I bet this bouquet wouldn’t make it to the reception’s end.

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Ok…the bouquet below is kinda cute.  And the upside, it could be a delicious late night treat for the bride and groom after the wedding!

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Ditto the bouquet below.  But there is nothing particularly special about a bunch of donuts together.  Is there?  The burlap wrapper doesn’t help.

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While not a bouquet the bride or her attendants would carry, the creation below would make a very colorful/pretty centerpiece.  And just think, each person could take a section home as a favor!  I bet not many of these pretty centerpieces would be left at the end of the reception!

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Perhaps the lovely apple centerpiece wouldn’t be such a big hit with the guests but I rather like this one.  And while labor may be the same to create this time of decoration as a floral one, I imagine the supply costs would be less expensive.  And who knows?  I bet it could be a great “do ahead” DIY project for the bride and her family.  Anything to save a few dollars for the shocking cost of weddings these days!

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