“Groom’s cake is a tradition most popular in the southeastern United States that began during the Victorian era, inherited from Britain. By the 1890s, the groom’s cake had become a popular complement to the “lady’s cake.”Traditionally, the cake was cut by the bridegroom and served with wine to the bridesmaids before going to the church.Groom’s cakes never became particularly popular in England, but in the Southern United States, the practice of having two separate cakes became very popular, with the bride’s cake being light and the groom’s being dark. Groom’s cakes are traditionally served at the wedding reception but can also be served at the wedding ceremony. It is usually considered proper for the groom’s cake to be served separately from the bride’s. Traditionally, groom’s cakes are chocolate and are often garnished with fruit. Many are decorated to reflect the groom’s hobbies, such as golfing, fishing, or hunting.
By the middle of the 20th Century, a competing custom incorporating both cakes on the same table had arisen. The bride’s cake would form the base, and the groom’s cake would be mounted on top. The bride and groom would cut the cakes and then give pieces to each other to eat. The cakes would then be served to the guests.
One tradition was to cut a piece of the cake and put it in a small box, then present the box to an unmarried woman attending the wedding. The woman was not expected to eat the cake, but rather to put it under her pillow. Superstition held that this tradition would help an unmarried woman find a husband.”
I remember the first wedding I went to as a little girl of four. I don’t think I was presented with a piece of groom’s cake, but I WAS sent home with a little box with a slice of wedding cake in it. And YES, I did put it under my pillow, as my mother told me I would dream of my husband…Did I?? No, I slept the sleep of the very young, closing my eyes, and opening them ten hours later, as if just a moment had passed…
I think the tradition of the Groom’s Cake is charming. From the research I’ve done, it appears more often than not, to be a novelty cake. While the top cake looks luscious, and is quite different from the traditional white wedding cake, most of the “Grooms’ Cakes” are themed based.
I really like the wedding dress/tuxedo theme of the two cakes above, but my favorite is the cake below…I think it’s perfect for Tyler and KK. Both love to fish, and I think it would be a delightful addition to their menu. Rob and Maggie didn’t have a groom’s cake. For another guest dessert option, they picked macaroons, (a sentimental choice for them), and other various pastries.
Image #1 embreehouse.net
Image #2 blog.wedalert.com
Image #3 eventstoatdc.com
Image #4 weddings.gatheringguide.com
First it was the unity candle, then the sand ceremony. What is a sand ceremony? you may ask. Well, according to the website, “How Stuff Works”, (see citation below), it is:
“At its simplest, a sand ceremony involves a symbolic blending of two different-colored sands into a single vessel. The meaning is clear: The blending of two different beings, the bride and the groom, into a single, inseparable unit that is theirmarriage — the joining of their lives. Hard as it would be to separate out those grains of sand, that’s how difficult it is to separate these two people. It usually takes place after the exchange of rings and vows (although it can go before or even during), and lasts just a couple of minutes.” http://people.howstuffworks.com/culture-traditions/cultural-traditions/sand-ceremony1.htm
But people, especially brides, are always trying to be different, unique. A forward thinking company came up with a new idea…that of providing a bride and groom glass beads that they can blend together at their wedding ceremony. The beads are then shipped back to the company in a prepaid box to be made into a beautiful, colorful work of art. The hope is that it will become a priceless family keepsake. Please see the description below from the company’s own website. Be forewarned, however…their pieces of art do not come cheap. The bowl below retails for $ 539.00 US Dollars. That is a mid-range price. A few are less…a few more.
THE SAND CEREMONY ALTERNATIVE.
Unity in Glass™ has taken the unity ceremony to the next level of artistic expression. Unity in Glass is an extremely thoughtful and lasting alternative to a sand ceremony or a unity candle. Together with you, we create a work of art to remember your wedding for a lifetime.
“With your custom made Unity in Glass sculpture, vase or bowl, you are taking the Unity Ceremony to the next level of personalization and artistic expression. As a lasting alternative to a unity candle or a sand ceremony you are creating a symbolic, highly personal, one of a kind art piece for your home. The process is collaborative and captures your spirit. You’re working together with a highly skilled glass artist to create a work of art that will last a lifetime. You will share the story of your special day for years to come.” http://www.unityinglass.com
Will KK and Tyler do this…keep reading to find out! 🙂
I was looking around pinterest the other day, and ran across this DIY Martha Stewart favor idea. Somethingturquoise.com gives a nice ingredient list and step by step instructions. This is an adorable, idea, and best of all, it’s consumable. I think the best favor ideas are those that the guests can eat or use and then…they’re gone. Who really wants to keep an item from someone else’s wedding? I read once where the bride and groom gifted their guests with Waterford Christmas ornaments with their name and wedding date engraved on them. But would you REALLY hang them on your tree?
- Martha Stewart Crafts darling test tube favor kit (halloween themed)
- dry creamer
- instant coffee
- dry milk powder
- cocoa powder
- salt + cinnamon (optional)
- mallow bits and chocolate sprinkles (optional)
- sticker paper
- FREE label downloads below
- recipe card print out
Instant Mocha Mix
Mix these 7 simple ingredients together to create a delicious ‘instant mocha mix’ that is wonderful for gift giving! Especially wedding favors…
- 3/4 cup sugar
- 3/4 cup dry creamer
- 1/2 cup instant coffee
- 1/2 cup dry milk powder
- 1/3 cup cocoa powder
- 1 tsp. salt
- 1 tsp. cinnamon
- mallow bits
- chocolate sprinkles
- Mix all the ingredients together in a blender until completely combined. That’s all there is too it!
- Add 1.5 tablespoons to an 8 ounce glass of hot water or milk
Will you have a Sweetheart Table, or head table? So what’s a Sweetheart Table? Well, YOU may know the answer to that question, but to be honest, until I started planning weddings, I didn’t. A Sweetheart Table is a special table just for the bride and groom. The official definition of a Sweetheart Table, according to the wedding gurus at the knot, www.theknot.com, is as follows:
“A sweetheart table is a small table set up for just the bride and groom at the wedding reception. The happy couple sits together, facing their guests, with their wedding attendants and families at tables in close proximity. The advantage is that you get to spend time together and enable your wedding party to sit with family and friends. If you’re not comfortable with being the focal point at the wedding reception, you can have a head table. Your head table can be similar to the other reception tables or it can be a dais table (elevated), to stand out. The head table can consist of all the wedding attendants or include the parents, siblings, grandparents and anyone else who is very close to the bride and groom.”
Maggie and Rob had a head table, as did Kenny and I. I don’t think the newlyweds or Kenny and I would change our choice, but the Sweetheart Table offers perks too. KK and Tyler have chosen to have a Sweetheart Table. One thing their wedding coordinator told them, “Commit to taking a moment at the reception to be alone. Enjoy the happiness around you, enjoy the music, the dancing, the ambiance. It’s over so quickly”. I think a Sweetheart Table allows a couple to do this. Otherwise, your wedding table will effectively be no different to all those loud dinners you’re going to have with your kids in the future on your glass dining table and 6 chairs, in your big semi-detached house. Of course your guests will visit you at your own private little oasis, but hopefully you’ll have a couple of those “Special Moments”…
Image #1 theknot.com
Image #2 www.projectwedding.comwww.pinterest.com
Image #3 www.pinterest.com
Image #4 www.weddingchicks.com