KK’s Bachelorette Party


The day finally arrived… KK’s Bachelorette a Party!! My parents’ home, in Ojai, California, is my girls’ happy place. We moved around a lot when they were younger, and Grammie and Gramps’ home was always their ‘constant’. That is one reason Maggie chose ‘The Ojai Valley Inn and Spa’ for KK’s bachelorette party.  Another was that over break, we could all be together in a stress free state of mind – well…as much as possible. And believe me, it’s not easy getting us all together in the same time and place!  I believe I posted about Maggie’s plans before, but today was ‘the day’! Above, is a photo of the spa pool – the resort sports three: the hotel pool, spa pool and the lap pool. Below is the spa compound on the resort  grounds, all photos courtesy of www.ojairesort.com



I chose to have the “lavender” spa pedicure.  The third picture is not of me, but it IS of the pedicure room.  There are three chairs, but I have never had a treatment with another client.  There is a fire burning in the grate, a fluffy blanket to cover you, and then you’re reclined all the way back.  Between you and me… I think they run the air conditioning.  December in Southern Califirnia does not always necessitate a fire – and this year was one of them. The girls picked manicures and massages. If you choose to, as a spa guest, you can attend yoga, exercise classes, or walking tours of Ojai on their famous trail.


For an extra fee, you can even develop your perfume in their apothecary cottage.

Not  only are the interior amenities exquisite, but Ojai’s outdoor nature is hard to beat.  Directly from their website:


“Pink Moment at Ojai Valley Inn & Spa

The city of Ojai is situated in a small east-west valley, north of Ventura and east of Santa Barbara. It is approximately 12 miles inland from the Pacific Ocean coast. Since Ojai is lined up with an east-west mountain range, it is one of few towns in the world to have a “Pink Moment” occur as the sun is setting. The fading sunlight creates a brilliant shade of pink for several minutes on the Topa Topa Bluffs, over 6,000 feet above sea level at the east end of the Ojai Valley. It is a rare and magical moment that thousands of visitors come to Ojai annually to see.”


(one doesn’t achieve the Forbes 4 star award for nothin’)

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Wedding Day Emergency Kit


So when the big day FINALLY arrives, you want to be prepared for any minor problem, OR, Heaven forbid…major disaster.  You need a wedding day emergency kit!

I suggest assigning a trust-worthy female member of the wedding party to be in change of “the bag”.  Maggie is going to be in charge of “the kit” at KK’s wedding.  She is very organized and is good under pressure. She will doubtless be more composed than the “trusty female” who STARTED tending “the bag” at HER wedding. That was I. I packed so much, I couldn’t find a simple bobby pin.  So word of caution… Don’t overpack. KK took over from me when she observed my fumbling mess.. And things were smoother from them on out. If you do choose to have emergency provisions, the following is a list which  should include:


Bride’s personal make-up items for touch-up

Fashion tape for last minute adjustments


Mini sewing kit

Advil, or other pain reliever


Immodium – please God—no!

Tampon –again- No!!




Castile soap and or baking soda for MINOR spills

Static guard

Wrinkle releaser

Wisp/ mouth wash

Safety pins

Earring backs

Emery board

Encourage the “keeper of the bag” to familiarize herself with the provisions prior to the wedding.  In the event an item is needed, she can whip it out in seconds!

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A Christmas Wedding?


Would you ever consider a Christmas wedding?  What are the advantages?  Well, believe it or not, quite a few. First of all, if you are going to be filing your tax return as a married couple, you have tax benefits that are greater than filing individually.  I know, not very romantic.

But consider this…you have a built in theme!  Notice the picture above.  All the red is striking and your color scheme is pulled together from the beginning. You have a theme everyone loves and so many ideas to choose from, from songs, to wedding favors, (think Christmas tree ornaments!), to signature cocktails (spiked eggnog…yummy!).  Your church and reception venue most probably will have decorate for the season, making your job easier, and much less expensive.  And red is such a festive/celebratory color.  It just makes people happy…ok…I am biased.  Red was the color we chose at OUR wedding 31 years ago…  🙂



And if you have out of town family you are inviting for the wedding, they may be more inclined to make the trip if they can spend Christmas with you as well.

The downsides…yes, there are some…you may miss out on anniversary gifts.  Maybe that’s why so many brides choose to get married in June – it’s six months away from Christmas.  A woman has something to look forward to…  Your husband may not budget in a Christmas gift AND an anniversary gift in the same month.



If you do decide on a Christmas wedding be conscience of mailing those “Save The Dates” extra early to your guests so not make other plans for the holidays.  And when those wedding invitations go out, allow extra mailing time as well.  You do not want your invites to get lost in the Christmas card mail.


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Conventional Wedding Registry



So what is my opinion of the conventional wedding registry?  Well…as a wedding guest, I love the idea.  I can purchase a gift for the bride and groom that I know they want.  I am assured that duplicates will not be made.

As a bride, I had a conventional gift registry.  If you’re about my age, I bet you did too.  What I loved as a bride, and still do to this day, is that I received items that I would probably not purchase myself.   But am so glad that I have them.  Our crystal is a perfect example.  Kenny and I have a complete set of Waterford crystal from water glasses to liqueur glasses, and all the bar ware in-between.


I can’t think of a time when we would have splurged on such extravagance.  There were always times when we were saving for a house, planning for a baby, saving for college.  We use our crystal almost every day.  Our wedding china, not so much.  But it is wonderful to have, and makes “special occasions” special.


When Kenny and I got married, my parents gave us a wooden sculpture that my father had made – among other things, my dad is an artist.  Sadly, I am not an artist, but continued the tradition my parents started.  So now, we give our children something from our home for their wedding gift.  We gave Maggie and Rob crystal candlesticks that one of my dear friends and bridesmaid gave us.  KK and Tyler will also receive one of our wedding presents for THEIR wedding gift. I’m not telling yet what it is…but have something lovely in mind…


My thoughts on the “Alternative Wedding Registries”…such as a Registry for Honeymoons, or Home Down-payments?…I’m not a fan…but it’s not my decision to make.  KK and Tyler…??  They will have a conventional wedding registry.  I like how they are “getting the word out ” about their registry.  It’s listed on their “the knot” website.  If fact that website tells their wedding story.  But THAT is a blog for another day…

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