I Wore A Dress to the Market

While Disney World is purported to be the “Happiest Place on Earth,” I have the happiest job on earth. Imagine being able to be a part of planning a couple’s wedding; up to that point, the best day in both their lives. But then…the Pandemic of 2020 hit.

Not only are poor couples forced to change their wedding day plans, or reschedule entirely; the job, which once gave me so much joy, has become a source of sadness. Instead of speaking with excited, giddy brides, I am, at best, speaking with disappointed ones.

I found myself out of sorts, and of course worried about my family and friends’ health and that of the world. My family was patient and kind, but frankly, had their own pandemic challenges: working from home with a houseful, as well as going to school on-line. We all had to make compromises.

I am not novel in declaring that, I had more time to do the “simple things”, more time to “get things organized,” more time to “connect with both family, in my home, and friends from afar.”  Yes, I did all those things, but I also decided to step outside the box.

I have never been a formal person, I’ll go run errands, do my marketing in sweats or exercise wear. So I decided that I was going to start dressing up for my only event, the grocery store. I began to look forward to my wardrobe selections, and plan what outfits I’d wear. It gave me something to anticipate, and got my mind off feeling sorry for myself.

Yes… I wore a dress, (or two), to the market. This may not be your thing, (maybe this was already your norm!), maybe you’ll enjoy cooking during this new normal,  (I oddly enough, have!). But if  you’re so inclined, pick something to get yourself out of your funk. I don’t think there’s anyone among us who has escaped some level of ennui. My message is: do something for yourself, and don’t feel you must do what everyone else is. We are all different, and different things please us. Find your happy thing.

Enjoy what we have, and what’s to come. It’s all we have.

And to my brides, both present and future out there, we will get though this. Sending my love.

Below, Mary in a dress. 🙂

 

 

 

Virtual Wedding ?

 

How to Plan a Virtual Wedding

So you’re worried that your wedding won’t happen because of the pandemic. Think you’re out of options? Think again. You DO have options. You will have to change the paradigm of what you thought your wedding would be, but you can still get married, and do it well.

Option A:

Elope.  Seem old-fashioned? It is. An elopement is something our great-grandparents did. But you can do it with a few modern-day tweaks. Make sure you get your marriage license is obtained  where you  choose to get married. A courthouse is a  good place to start.  Call ahead and confirm hours have not changed due to our new reality.

Option B:

Reschedule for a later date. This is disappointing and a lot of work. But if you’re looking for your dream wedding with no changes except the date, it’s your best bet. My concern? What is to insure you won’t be rescheduling again in six months?

If you go this route, talk to your venue and vendors about penalties, rebooking costs, and their availability.

Option C:

Get married in a simple manner now, then hold a big party a year to year and a half from now. While not guaranteed to be trouble free, your new plans have less chance of interruption again.

Option D:

A virtual wedding. WHAT?  Yes, it’s a thing. This option, life anything else, takes planning.

  • First, make sure your vendors are available.
  • Next, inform your guests of the new date. I suggest doing this via email, or even better, an e-invite such as https://www.paperlesspost.com I’ve used this company for many occasions, and you can often select e-invites for free!
  • Make sure you have whatever tech gear you may need.
  • Choose the platform you wish to use. A quick google search will give you options.
  • Make sure all your ducks are in a row.  Have you decorated as you wish? Are you wedding clothes ready?
  • Say, “I Do!”

 

https://thebudgetsavvybride.com/how-to-plan-a-virtual-wedding/

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Check your state’s requirements for virtual weddings, While virtual weddings are a way to allow guests to view your wedding who can’t attend, your state most likely will require your officiant to be physically present, as well as witnesses.

How To Virtually Plan and Live Stream Your Wedding

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My Mom and Dad were early adapters.  Here they are viewing my oldest’s wedding in New England from the comfort of their home in California.

Would You Buy Your Wedding Dress Online?

In the age of online shopping, you can truly buy anything online. As a bride, this makes wedding planning a lot easier. But…would you ever consider buying your wedding dress online?

Today, if you Google “trusted online wedding dress site” you get 35,600,000 results, right at your fingertips. You could find any dress you could ever imagine online, but is it worth it? A few years ago, I would say no. But now, I think it’s a real option to consider.

What I like about the idea of shopping online for a wedding dress is the amount of time you can save, as well as all of the color and design options that are available. Pretty much anything you can think of can probably be found online! Not to mention, it’s very likely you’ll pay a fraction of what you would at a boutique–who wouldn’t love that? One popular website brides are using right now is Azazie.com, which not only has wedding dresses, but also bridesmaid dresses, flower girl dresses, and even mother of the bride dresses. If you’re planning a wedding with a limited amount of time, or you’re trying to maximize your efforts, online stores could be your best friend. Azazie even has an option where you can put in your exact measurements, and they’ll make your dress custom for you with no extra charge!

Another popular site right now for wedding dresses is Etsy, believe it not. Yes, the place where you buy your custom jewelry from is also a great place to look for wedding dresses. If you’re having trouble finding a truly unique design, you can find sellers who will make a custom gown for you. After doing some research, I found two popular sellers that brides from all over the world trust: RenzBridal and Blush Fashion. Both shops have gorgeous gowns that truly surprised me.

If you’ve ever seen TLC’s show, “Say Yes to the Dress,” you’ll often see many brides who have traveled to NYC in desperate hope of finding that perfect wedding dress, after numerous failed shopping trips and an approaching deadline. To the bride who is looking for her dream dress and can’t seem to find it in person: ditch the boutiques and open up your Internet browser!

Using Uber for your Wedding – Gimmick or Game-Changer?

Providing transportation for your guests is an increasingly customary part of a wedding. Most couples will secure a bus which can transport the most people in the most efficient way. However, there are some cons to this mode of transportation. Buses have set times they are scheduled to pick up guests, meaning there’s no wiggle room if you want to leave early, or perhaps stay later. They also have a set destination, usually a local hotel where the majority of guests are staying. However, not every guest stays at the same hotel, and not every guest goes straight to bed after the reception!

If you are planning on celebrating late into the night, or just want to make sure all of your guests get home safely regardless of the hotel they’re staying at, Uber could be the millennial solution you’re looking for.

Uber offers a service called Uber Events, where you can prepay for rides for your event, and provide all your guests with a promo code to use in the app. You select the amount you’d like to provide for each ride, the number of rides per guest, and only pay for what your guests actually use at the end of the night. While this method requires your guests to have an Uber account, it’s easy and free to download.

This method is not for everyone, like if you’re having your wedding in a rural area with a smaller Uber presence, or one without cell phone reception. But, if you’re having your wedding in a location where Ubers are plentiful, and your guest list isn’t too long, I think this idea is one to consider.

I really like the personal feel of providing individual cars for everyone. It makes your guests feel like they have more control over the night, and you don’t have to worry about corralling everyone onto a bus at the end of a long, champagne filled night. If Uber seems like the perfect transportation solution for your wedding, check out their website here for more info.