Shall We Bring Back Headpieces For Bridesmaids ?

Headpieces for bridesmaids were once a mandatory accessory.  Why?  One reason, the Roman Catholic Church, pre-Vatican II, required all women to have their heads covered upon entering a Catholic Church.  So it became a wedding tradition for all bridesmaids.  Below is a photo of Princess Grace of Monaco’s bridesmaids.  Love the hats, but looks like they’re having a little trouble keeping them on in the outdoor breeze.


I hope my aunt won’t mind too much…below is a photo of my darling Aunt Judy at her sister Ginger’s wedding.  She is pictured with my maternal grandparents…I love this photo.   I had never seen it before. I ran across it on Facebook, which gave me the idea for this post.  Aunt Judy doesn’t look too happy with her headpiece.  But it WAS the 60’s…  🙂  Hummm…I wonder what the bride’s colors were…?


Below is another take on bridesmaids’ hair accessories.  While not quite my vision, it does buy into a resurrection of bridesmaids’ headpieces. I think I like the flower girl’s flower wreath better…



I ADORE these gowns…every color is lovely, as are all the varying styles.  The hues really compliment each other.  And what about the flowers in the ladies’ hair?  I hope they aren’t real, as at the end of the evening, I bet they’d be droopy…



The photo above is probably a realistic modern day option for bridesmaid headwear.  It’s small but stylish.  The popularity of the European royals, and their love of hats, has increased OUR devotion here in the States.  I believe the hat above would compliment any attire without being overly dramatic, as the above flowers were.  Heck, those flowers were so sensational, no one may have noticed the bride.  I can hear it now…”Are those real flowers?” Or…how are those flowers anchored on their heads?!?”  🙂

If you’d like to read a post on Bridesmaid’s duties, click on the link!  Bridesmaid’s Duties



Rustic Wedding Done Right



I research a lot of weddings.  I attend  a lot of ceremonies/receptions.  But recently, I observed a wedding via Facebook…and well, I was just impressed.  It takes a lot to impress me these days, as I see it all.  I’m talking about the nuptials of Kate, the daughter of a “Facebook Friend” and up and coming author of the Maine “Clam Bake Series”  Barbara Ross – more on that later!  Above, the beautiful Kate in her bridal gown by: Amy Kuschel Lennon.  Photo credits for photos #1, #4, #5, and #6 are by Abby Lorenz Photography.  Other photos are contributed by family friends!  🙂

I think why I was so taken with this wedding was because Kate and her mom, Barbara, seemed to take all the bits and pieces of my favorites and make it  work.  I have long been touting the wisdom, and BEAUTY of dressing the bridesmaids in individual dresses, both in style and color.  Check — they did that; a beautiful success.  Notice the photo below.


Love, LOVE the venue, “The Portland Company”.  It creates such a fantastic atmosphere of elegance with a rustic vibe, a lovely fusion.  Hard to accomplish, but when done right, not much can beat it.


The overall appeal of this venue could not have been achieved without the artistic touch of the flowers, done by Flowers Broadturn Farm.   The flowers around the “stage”, where the bridal couple said their vows, takes my breath away.


Below, the new Mr. and Mrs., showcasing my favorite thing…the wedding bouquet.  I have long held the belief that a bride should carry a bold bouquet of color to contrast nicely with her white gown. A  perfect snap of the whole family follows.  You know it’s a good wedding when everyone looks so joyous!



The ceremony venue easily converted into the ideal reception space – perfect combo of rustic  elegance.  And who pulled this off, (with great input by Kate and Barbara, I’m sure), none other  than Wedding Planner, ‘Daisies and Pearls’.13232976_10154299626320962_1466302834382357038_nAnd PLEASE, don’t forget to check out Barbara Ross’ delightful “Maine Clambake Series”  I’ve read all three books, and each gets better…


How To Be A Good Wedding Guest

As we are in the midst of wedding season, we should ask ourselves what are some key factors to being a “Good Wedding Guest”?  Of course it should be simple, but often, it’s not.

I reprinted an article awhile back from that had the 33 worse wedding guest mistakes.  If you’d like to read it, click on the link: 33 Worst Wedding Guest Mistakes

Today, I highlight my OWN personal pet peeves.


1 – Respect whatever mandates the bridal and groom make regarding photos during the ceremony and reception.  Today, when every man, woman and child has a camera at the ready, (via their phone!), photos can get out of hand.  Some brides today are choosing a “social media blackout” until she can choose what to showcase on the internet.  Respect that.

2 – Don’t wear white, cream, ivory, or even blush.  That’s for the bride.  Black was also a taboo color, but no longer.  It’s acceptable now.


3 – DON’T HIGHJACK THE PHOTOGRAPHER!!  I think of all the items in this post, this is the most important.  I was a guest at a wedding last year.  The beautiful wedding ceremony was over.  The guests were kindly asked to proceed into the reception tent and enjoy “Cocktail Hour” while the bridal party and family members took pictures.  Dinner would commence after.  What did a group of grown women do?  They rounded up their daughters, a couple were bridesmaids, a few were not, and grabbed the photographer and strongly asked that he photograph them.  Now, I do blame the photographer.  He could have gently told them, “No.”  Perhaps the Mother of the Bride could have stepped in.  And as this wedding didn’t have a Wedding Coordinator, that was not an option.  This delayed the photo session by 15 miutes (or so said the Mother of then Groom when she told me about it).  Doesn’t sound like a lot of time…but it is.


4 – Be a happy guest like the ones below, and don’t complain — especially to the Mothers of the bride and groom.  A friend related an incident to me recently.  She had been a guest at a wedding and a fellow guest had a complaint.  She told the mother of the bride about it, and it was resolved.  (it easily could have been fixed by the guest herself)  But the guest kept talking about it, to all who would listen.  Not very thoughtful.

The bride and female wedding guests

5 -Don’t steal others seats.  Three years ago I attended the wedding of a friend’s son.  Kenny and I claimed our escort cards and went to our table.  We were allowed to choose our own seats at our assigned table.  We were the first to arrive, and I chose what I thought were GREAT seats.  Apparently another guest we were seated with thought so too.  I went to greet a friend, and when I returned to our table, she had moved my purse and shawl from our saved seats and put her items there.  “I hope you don’t mind,” she said.  “We have a better view here.”  Normally, I would have said, “Yes, I do mind.”  But I didn’t want to make a scene.  I think she counted on that…



6 – Don’t take a gift to the wedding.  A card with your gift enclosed is great to take to the wedding, but a big bulky gift, no.  If you’d like to send a gift instead of giving cash, please use the gift registry and have it shipped to the bride’s home.  Remember, someone at the end of the evening has to get all those gifts home.


Destination Wedding – Ojai, CA!


What about a destination wedding where the stars go to decompress, and MARRY?  I’m talking about Ojai, California, where I grew up.  Ojai is home to an electic group of people — from the Ultra swank, ‘Ojai Valley Inn and Spa’ to posh prep schools – in order of prominence, 1) The Thacher School, 2) Villanova Prep, and 3) The Ojai Valley School – to religious gurus who prize the small natural valley. (Supposedly it’s the smallest valley where the mountains run east and west AND north and south).


Photos #1 and #2 via Facebook. 🙂  The bell town to the right of the photo is our post office.

Ojai has been vacation home to the late Larry Hagman and Reece Witherspoon to name a few.  Will and Jada Smith to Kate Walsh have chosen to marry at the world famous Ojai Valley Inn and Spa. It’s one of my favorite, “happy places”, as well as my daughters’  My oldest, KK, celebrated her bachelorette party there.

My family still makes their home still in Ojai, and we try to visit at least twice a year.  We try to get  to OVI’s exceptional spa at least one day a trip.


Above, the women’s indoor hot tub



The exterior of the spa at night, and below one of the resort’s beautiful live oaks.


The last four photos are mine.  Rather proud my photography on those!  While I can not speak on the overnight accommodations, or their wedding packages/options, as I have yet to be a hotel guest or take a ‘wedding tour’, I WILL praise the spa. It is exceptional. I will report in a future post, if I made an overnight site visit and tour the wedding venue options. I’m sure it’s lovely, but not will to speak to what I haven’t thoroughly researched.

Perhaps you wish to marry in Ojai, but your budget is limited.  Tomorrow, I will explore THOSE options for you.