All New Wedding Registry Ideas

All New Wedding Registry Ideas!

– According to Buzzfeed.com, “With HoneyFund.com or Wanderable.com, you can register things like a dinner out, a night of hotel, or surf lessons to enjoy during the honeymoon (and you can fill out your own descriptions and get all cute and specific about it). Your friends and family feel like they’re gifting you a meaningful experience rather than just a gravy boat (even though they are essentially just giving you cash).”

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I think this is quite a lovely idea. How many of us have just written a check and slipped it into a pretty wedding card, to be delivered at the wedding reception?  Most of us, I’m sure. Well, now we can have the convenience of writing a check, but a little thrill of knowing where our “gift” is going.  I had a meeting with a new bride for my wedding planning company last week, and she showed me her registry for the honeymoon.  The guests had the opportunity of purchasing a special night out, 1/15 of their airfare, a glass-bottomed boat excursion, you get the idea.  (The above photo is my daughter, Maggie and son-in-law, Robert on THEIR honeymoon.  They didn’t choose this new registry style, but then they needed many household items).

What about a ‘Home Down Payment’ fund for your first home or a ‘College Fund’ for your future children?  These are some of the other types of registries out there on the great world wide web!

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Maybe a gift card registry is more to your liking?  A word of caution here… more times than not, my funds have NOT been loaded on the card when I purchase it, EVEN when I am given a confirmation receipt… makes one wonder…

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Do you have everything you could possibly need?  Maybe a charitable donation suggestion in your name is the way to go.  That way, everyone wins!

 

 

Wedding Gown Trains

 

If you opt for a wedding gown train, you have many choices.

In this post, I’ll tell you about three of the many types:  ChapelCathedralRoyal, and Monarch trains.

 

The Chapel Train is 3 and a half feel long.  It is measured from the waist.  This train is formal, but not unwieldy. It gives a bride a graceful silhouette.

The Cathedral Train is 6 and a half to 7 and a half feet long, also measured from the waist.  If a bride chooses this train length, and she wishes to wear a veil, she needs to select a cathedral length veil.  The train and veil thus compliment each other, and there is no break in the lines of either.  This was my daughter’s choice.  You can see Maggie and her groom in the photo below:

 The Royal Train is no less than ten feet long, measuring from the waist.  This train is reserved for a grand ceremony, and the clothing selections for the attendants and guests should be in keeping with it’s tone.  The venue screams cathedral, not a country church.

The final train style is the Monarch Train. This train is twelve feet or longer from the waist.  This train is usually only seen in a royal wedding venue.  Think the beautiful and icon Diana, Princess and Wales, and HRH Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge.  Of course, anyone can wear this train, but if you DO choose it, keep in mind that at least 2 attendants will need to aide you in your walk up and down the isle…

**File Photo** Diana, Princess of Wales, wearing an Emanuel wedding dress, enters St. Paul's Cathedral on the hand of her father, Earl Spencer, for her marriage to Charles, Prince of Wales on 29 July 1981. **Not for publication in France. Available for publication in the rest of the world** Featuring: **File Photo** When: 12 Apr 2010 Credit: WENN

Next time, we’ll talk bustles, as you MUST have one is your dress sports a train!

Thanks to Jenny Evans from www.wedding.lds.com for all the excellent information.

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Image #2 – Patty Cloherty photos

Image #3 –  theweddingspecialists.net

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Father of the Bride Speech

Father of the Bride Speech

…The father of the bride… This post is dedicated to all those dads, and father figures out there whom we women tend to put in the background until we need a check written 🙂 , or to schedule a suit/tux fitting.  But the Father of the Bride has two enormous roles — that of walking his daughter down the isle, and giving the reception opening speech/toast.

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Above: My oldest, Kathleen, having  little chat, and it looks like a giggle, with her dad before they walk down the isle.  Below, Kenny and daughter number two, Maggie, on HER walk down the isle.  Poor Kenny.  He had to do it twice in two years!

Think about it…when you, the father of the bride, escort your daughter down the isle, it is the first time the guests will view the beautiful bride.  It’s your job to support her, both figuratively and literally, and keep her calm.  But you can do it…you’ve been doing it her entire life.

But after that monumental task is completed, you have one more, equally as important…that of opening the reception/toasting the new bride and groom.  This is not easy.  Just ask any Father who has ever done it.  One must find the right balance between sentiment and a chuckle, praising your daughter, as well as your new son.  And don’t forget the thank yous…especially to your wife and those who may have traveled a long distance.

But here’s the really sticky issue that is not often thought of OR practiced.  If you can… PLEASE don’t use notes.  It takes away from the solemnness of the event.  It looks as if you didn’t give time to memorize it or give the speech the attention it deserves.  Now there are exceptions to this… 1) if you are the maid/matron of honor or the best man – notes are fine.  You do not have the head role of “Father of the Bride” – OR… 2) if you have a phobia about public speaking or are too emotional to get through it without a prop – by all means, use the notes!

Above, my husband toasting Maggie.  Three of my four daughters are listening, in the two photos above and in the picture below.  Rarely have I been as proud of Kenny as when he gave speeches at both girls’ weddings.  It seemed effortless…but I know it was not.  I think almost as many people complimented me on his speeches as the beauty of the brides…well…not quite… 🙂

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Kathleen, on the right, looks a little emotional, doesn’t she!

All photos: Patty Cloherty

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Name Change For New Brides

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Tradition states women take their husband’s last name when they marry — will YOU?  Social Norms change, and it is no longer the only way.  Some brides keep their maiden name, some hyphenate their maiden name with their new married name but most still carry their husband’s.

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Other cultures, an example is the lovely Indian woman above, are steeped in tradition, and rarely deviate from what is expected.  We as Americans, have always been able to step outside the box.

When I was married 32 year ago, I just started using my married name.  I did not have to file court papers, which some women go to the extreme to do today.  I DID have to physically make the trip to the DMV to change my driver’s license, get a new passport, send away for a new teaching certificate, however.

Now…there are companies who will do this for you.  Brilliant, really.  Hey…there’s even a “Groupon” package!  I think it would be a very worthwhile expense to purchase such a package, even if you DON’T find a Groupon for it (there are lots of companies out there clamoring to perform this service for a fee for you!  Just google).  What exactly is it?  To quote Groupon’s “In A Nutshell” description: “Name change service helps clients quickly and efficiently change their names after marriage – a perfect engagement shower or wedding gift.”

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What are some other traditions that American Brides love to follow?  The bridal veil for one.  If you’d like to read a couple of former blog posts about choosing to wear a veil at YOUR wedding, click not the following links. Wedding Veils , Alternatives to Wedding Veils

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And let’s not forget the time honored tradition of the groom carrying his bride over the threshold of their new home.   With the vast number of couples living together before they marry, this too may become a thing of the past…  When old traditions fall away, new ones come into being…  🙂

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And the last photo…Just because I love the dress!  It’s a new style, by the way.  Not really white…more gray…