I Wore A Dress to the Market

While Disney World is purported to be the “Happiest Place on Earth,” I have the happiest job on earth. Imagine being able to be a part of planning a couple’s wedding; up to that point, the best day in both their lives. But then…the Pandemic of 2020 hit.

Not only are poor couples forced to change their wedding day plans, or reschedule entirely; the job, which once gave me so much joy, has become a source of sadness. Instead of speaking with excited, giddy brides, I am, at best, speaking with disappointed ones.

I found myself out of sorts, and of course worried about my family and friends’ health and that of the world. My family was patient and kind, but frankly, had their own pandemic challenges: working from home with a houseful, as well as going to school on-line. We all had to make compromises.

I am not novel in declaring that, I had more time to do the “simple things”, more time to “get things organized,” more time to “connect with both family, in my home, and friends from afar.”  Yes, I did all those things, but I also decided to step outside the box.

I have never been a formal person, I’ll go run errands, do my marketing in sweats or exercise wear. So I decided that I was going to start dressing up for my only event, the grocery store. I began to look forward to my wardrobe selections, and plan what outfits I’d wear. It gave me something to anticipate, and got my mind off feeling sorry for myself.

Yes… I wore a dress, (or two), to the market. This may not be your thing, (maybe this was already your norm!), maybe you’ll enjoy cooking during this new normal,  (I oddly enough, have!). But if  you’re so inclined, pick something to get yourself out of your funk. I don’t think there’s anyone among us who has escaped some level of ennui. My message is: do something for yourself, and don’t feel you must do what everyone else is. We are all different, and different things please us. Find your happy thing.

Enjoy what we have, and what’s to come. It’s all we have.

And to my brides, both present and future out there, we will get though this. Sending my love.

Below, Mary in a dress. 🙂

 

 

 

Virtual Wedding ?

 

How to Plan a Virtual Wedding

So you’re worried that your wedding won’t happen because of the pandemic. Think you’re out of options? Think again. You DO have options. You will have to change the paradigm of what you thought your wedding would be, but you can still get married, and do it well.

Option A:

Elope.  Seem old-fashioned? It is. An elopement is something our great-grandparents did. But you can do it with a few modern-day tweaks. Make sure you get your marriage license is obtained  where you  choose to get married. A courthouse is a  good place to start.  Call ahead and confirm hours have not changed due to our new reality.

Option B:

Reschedule for a later date. This is disappointing and a lot of work. But if you’re looking for your dream wedding with no changes except the date, it’s your best bet. My concern? What is to insure you won’t be rescheduling again in six months?

If you go this route, talk to your venue and vendors about penalties, rebooking costs, and their availability.

Option C:

Get married in a simple manner now, then hold a big party a year to year and a half from now. While not guaranteed to be trouble free, your new plans have less chance of interruption again.

Option D:

A virtual wedding. WHAT?  Yes, it’s a thing. This option, life anything else, takes planning.

  • First, make sure your vendors are available.
  • Next, inform your guests of the new date. I suggest doing this via email, or even better, an e-invite such as https://www.paperlesspost.com I’ve used this company for many occasions, and you can often select e-invites for free!
  • Make sure you have whatever tech gear you may need.
  • Choose the platform you wish to use. A quick google search will give you options.
  • Make sure all your ducks are in a row.  Have you decorated as you wish? Are you wedding clothes ready?
  • Say, “I Do!”

 

https://thebudgetsavvybride.com/how-to-plan-a-virtual-wedding/

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Check your state’s requirements for virtual weddings, While virtual weddings are a way to allow guests to view your wedding who can’t attend, your state most likely will require your officiant to be physically present, as well as witnesses.

How To Virtually Plan and Live Stream Your Wedding

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Virtual Wedding Expo: Fancy That Cake - TheWeddingRing.ca

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My Mom and Dad were early adapters.  Here they are viewing my oldest’s wedding in New England from the comfort of their home in California.

Wedding Bouquet – Giant or Smaller?

Wedding Bouquet, giant or smaller?

I’ve noticed a trend lately. Brides are choosing larger bouquets.

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I’m going to be honest…it’s not my first choice. I don’t think they’re flattering in either photos or the bride. Note the photo above.  We can not even see the bride’s waist. I have an inking she did her best to present a trim silhouette, but we can’t see it.

Exceptions? When you are close to six feet tall and are getting married in a venue such as St. Paul’s Cathedral, London. To whom am I referencing?  Well, Lady Diana Spencer, of course. Her wedding ensemble warranted a gigantic bouquet. It was part of the costume.

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Note the bouquets carried by her daughters-in-law above. I think they are much more flattering. We as guests, or at least the viewing public, are able to see the brides’ dresses.  A bride still has something to do with her hands by carrying a smaller bouquet, but is not overwhelmed.  The eye is able to focus on the important things: the dress, hair, accessories, not just the flowers.  Another upside? Large bouquets are HEAVY! And…they are more expensive.

I am not advocating skimping on wedding flowers.  They are an extremely important part of your wedding decor; perhaps just not one you have to tote around and pose with in your formal photos.

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Wow!  Check out the floral above!  That is  spectacular.  You can go big without making your florals part of your personal flowers.

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Another favorite of mine?  A splash of color in the bride’s bouquet, and white flowers for the bridesmaids. With this model, both styles of bouquets pop in photos.

But remember…it’s YOUR wedding; so what is correct is what YOU like…not me, not your mother, your bridesmaids, or your florist….YOU.  Enjoy all the planning.

 

What Will You Do With Your Flowers After the Wedding?

What will you do with your flowers after your wedding’s over?  They are so beautiful AND expensive. Well, there are three options:

  1. Send them home with family and friends at the end of the night.

Love the lush eucalyptus greenery with peonies/ garden for a table runner/ wedding centerpiece, especially with white candles interspersed

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2. Donate them to a nursing home or your local church. This is a lovely idea, but be advised it creates its own set of complications. Many venues insist you completely vacate their site the night of the event. Who will pick up the blooms?

3. Consider “Flower Sharing”. What is this? You may ask.  Well, read below and find out.  Description taken directly from one company’s website.  I have never used this company, so can not vouch for them. Sounds like a great option, however!

 

First Event:

Discover & pick your Bloomerent Florist
Want traditional, tall centerpieces or low, rustic centerpieces with lush greenery? We have the right florist for you. Browse our florists’ past work and reviews to find your favorite florist.
Consult with your florist to get a quote
Now that you’ve chosen the florist(s) you’re interested in, it’s time to get down to the details and receive a quote.
Book your florist
Make it official with your florist! Pay your florist directly, just like usual.
We’ll list your flowers on Bloomerent.com
We’ll take it from here! While you enjoy the rest of your planning, we’ll list your centerpieces on our website to be reused. When they are, we’ll send you 10% back to say thank you for sharing and your florist will return to pick up the flowers after your event.

Second Event:

Choose to reuse fresh floral centerpieces

Want to save 40-60% off traditional pricing? Enter your event date and location to see which flowers are available to reuse in your area.
Connect with the florist
Now that you’ve decided which flowers you want to reuse, you work with the florist who’s creating them for all of your additional floral needs. Want to make minor changes, like adding a new flower or pop of color? Let your florist know.
Book your florist
Pay your florist directly and save 40-60% off your reused centerpieces. The exact amount is dependent on your florist and logistics. Your florist will deliver and set up your flowers as usual.

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Would you want any of these terrific arrangements to just be ‘thrown out?’

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rustic barn wedding venue ideas for a farm wedding

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Simple reception centerpieces with a big impact. Tall blue delphinium arrangements with curly willow branches, greenery runner, candles and small accent designs. Floral: Wildflowers LLC Photo: Eden Ingle Photography

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I would never suggest “sharing your bouquet” however.  That you should definitely keep! If you’d like to learn how to preserve your bouquet… click HERE !

Sunflowers are the perfect summer flower: They're large like their namesake, are beautifully bright, and, perhaps best of all, are in season during the warmer months. Why wouldn't you want to add them to your wedding bouquet? #Wedding #Sunflower #Bouquets #WeddingFlowers #Inspiration #Summer #Yellow | Martha Stewart Weddigns - 20 Sunflower Bouquets That Will Brighten Up Your Wedding Day

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