Wedding Invitations – Are You Ready For New Social Mores?

Wedding Invitations – are you ready for the new social mores?  Remember, your wedding invitation is your guests’ first glimpse into your wedding style.  You want to do it right.  With all the new couplings, you want to make sure you address your invites properly.  The chart below is very comprehension and a good reference.

But what about the wording of the invitation?  With blended families, divorced parents, the new trend of the groom’s family contributing to the wedding, things can get muddled.  Another helpful chart follows:

And another informative chart of appropriate invitations wordings below.

But don’t just stop with your invitation.  Remember to also order your thank you cards when you order your invitations.  Do they have to match or share the theme of your invites?  NO.  But order or purchase them asap.  And try to write the thank yous as soon as the gifts come in.  A common theme I’ve seen among couples is a stand-off regarding thank you notes.  The bride puts her foot down and takes a stand.  She “Will NOT write all the thank you notes!”  Her groom is going to do half. Guess what?  Those thank yous keep getting put off, because really, no one likes to do them.  And let’s face it, someone is going to do the heavy lifting on this one.  Get it done.  It just reflects badly on both of you if you delay.  A cute idea… one of my daughters and sons-in-law wrote a few thank yous after the wedding, and included a photo of them using the wedding gift.  Talk about a hit!  The guests loved this!

And what to say?  Check out the nice formula above.  Remember, your guests put time, thought, and generous funds into your gift.  It’s thoughtful to respond in kind.

All the Ins and Outs of Wedding Invitations


All the ins and outs of wedding invitations, do you you know them? There’s more to your wedding invitation than just picking a pretty pattern.  You must decide who the hosts are, (bride’s family, groom’s family or both), type of wedding, (religious, non-religious), font and invitation style.


In deciding the script font, you are making a choice as to whether your invitation will be formal, or informal.  Above are some lovely, “free” fonts for a DIY invite.  CAN you DIY?  Yes you can, and nicely too. Although if you go on a website such as, you can get a professional to make your invitations for not that much more than a DIY “kit” would cost you.


Addressing those invites…this can be a challenge to be done properly.  Best advice?  Consult an etiquette book, this blog post, or a website.  You want to do it right?  Consider hiring a calligrapher, it’s not prohibitively priced, and can save you so much time – as well as looking beautiful.  Another option?  Check to see if your printer offers the option of printing your guests’ addresses on the outer envelopes prior to shipping you your completed order.



The above chart offers some “extra tips” for the right way, and the WRONG way of the envelope etiquette.  Perhaps the most important tip, always, always spell all words out, i.e., state name, street address, etc.


When you’ve figured all the business side of your wedding invitations, the fun begins.  You get to choose your style.  Remember, your wedding invitation is the first glimpse your guests will get for the style and vibe of your wedding.  Not to scare you, but it’s a big decision!


All About Wedding Invitations

Having trouble deciding who makes the cut for your wedding, what wording to use on your invitations, what font, what style?  Well, this post, “All About Wedding Invitations” is for you!  It IS difficult to decide whom to invite and whom to exclude.  Granted you can’t invite everyone you know!  If you’d like to read more about that sensitive topic, just click on the link: Guest List for a previous blog post.  Maybe it can help you navigate the treacherous waters of protecting people’s feelings while still staying on budget – not easy to do!



MOD wedding

I found this chart invaluable on how to address those invitation envelopes CORRECTLY.  I thought I knew the proper way, but was not right on a few instances.  And remember, the formality of the addresses should match the style of the invitation.  One item I found amusing on this chart…”Use the Five Digit Zip Code” instead of the longer version, as it’s “Aesthetically more pleasing”.  🙂


pretty paper

I never knew there were so many calligraphy fonts.  There are all sort of options for the the physical act of addressing invitations.  Some companies offer to print the names and address on your envelopes before they even ship.  All you need to do is stuff them.  While it won’t actually look as if someone took “pen to paper”, I hear it looks pretty good.  I addressed my daughters’ invitations with my best calligraphy, (which while not professional, I was pleased with my efforts), but I’m not sure I’ll do it for the younger two.  Do people really notice?


Although not an invitation, I included the above photo because I liked the idea so much.  The chart gives the guests a nice heads up for the evening.


bridal guide

Don’t forget to number the backs of your envelopes.  Then assign the number to your guest list.  There will ALWAYS be a few people who forget to write their names on the response cards…

Etsy For Your Wedding Invitations?



I’m not saying this is KK and Tyler’s wedding invitation…but it COULD be…As reported, Tyler proposed on the lake at his family’s lake home, while they were fishing…something they both love.  The above invitation was shared with you in black and white.  I couldn’t reproduce it in color, and do it justice.

And where was this gem found?  KK and Tyler found it on…  And what is you ask…

Well…according to Wikipedia,

“Etsy is a peer-to-peer (P2P) e-commerce website focused on handmade or vintage items and supplies, as well as unique factory-manufactured items under Etsy’s new guidelines, released in October 2013. These items cover a wide range, including art, photography, clothing, jewelry, food, bath and beauty products, quilts, knick-knacks, and toys. Many sellers also sell craft supplies such as beads, wire and jewelry-making tools. All vintage items must be at least 20 years old.[3] The site follows in the tradition of open craft fairs, giving sellers personal storefronts where they list their goods for a fee of US$0.20 per item.[4]

What I love about, is that as a consumer, you are supporting small businesses.  And as a discriminating consumer, I appreciate etsy’s quality, excellent customer service, attention to detail and unique options.

KK found, and I found Julie- the creative genius behind it.  I truly appreciate the hand-holding I received, the immediate response to queries, the high quality of work – and most importantly the personal touch.


Considering a “Save the Date”? has a wide variety of options.  What about wedding ceremony programs?  Check out!  KK and I have already decided to order her wedding programs from  What will she choose…???  Well, I can’t say…but you will be the first to know after the wedding.  🙂