How To Choose A Headpiece

How to choose a headpiece for your wedding ensemble?  The more weddings I do, the more brides I see without a wedding veil.  Perhaps because many of the weddings I’m involved with are outside?  What are my thoughts on this?  My thoughts… the choice is not mine.  Whatever a bride wants is what’s correct.  Personally?  For my own daughters?  I love the wedding veil. I think it makes a bride look like a bride.  If one chooses to wear a veil, then there are more decisions to make.  Will you have a “blusher” – meaning will you cover your face with a veil?  If so, you may want to consider some sort of headpiece to elevate the blusher on your hair and create the best possible platform.

Below is my own headpiece nestled in my veil.  I had my dress and veil preserved.  As clean as I thought my gown was, it was stained.  My veil and headpiece, however, looked great.  I was thrilled when my two oldest daughters chose to wear it, with their own veils, of course.

(If you’d like to read more about the wedding veil, and it’s history, click on the link below).

History of the wedding veil

Mary P. Karnes Photos

Below, my oldest, Kathleen, in my headpiece.  She is pictured with her sisters.  In the next photo, daughter number two, Maggie, with me, wears my headpiece as well.

Hannah Rachael Colt Photos

Stephan Wang

But maybe you need a little direction in how to choose your headpiece.  Below is an EXCELLENT chart to direct you.  When you shop for your dress, even if you think you have decided AGAINST a veil, just try one on.  The vision you will see in the mirror, with the iconic veil, just may change your mind!



What about a headpiece with no veil?  Well, I think the creation below is exquisite.  If you’re a brunette, clear stones are a great choice.  A blond? Perhaps a tiara with colored stones, or a floral headpiece.


Would you like to wear a veil, but don’t desire something on top of your head?  Then this comb is for you.  it will hold your veil in place, but not compete with your hairstyle.


And what would a post about my headpiece be without a photo of me wearing it?  Below, there I am with my husband of almost 34 years.


Wedding Headpiece

This photo is of my headpiece and veil.  They are 30 years old now.  I had them preserved, along with my dress, by my local dry cleaner.  I opened my “Memory Keepsake Box” when Maggie got engaged, and coincidentally close to Kenny’s and my 30 year anniversary.  I was pleased at how well the dress and veil held up.

All four of our daughters are now taller than I.  I do not hold onto hopes that one of them will wear my dress.  Dresses can be hemmed, but not much can be done when when they are too short.

The veil/headpiece is another story.  I would love it if someday one of the girls wore some component of my “Veil.”

This creates a problem.  My dress and veil were pure white.  It is the fashion now to wear an ivory shade.  White is very harsh, and the off-white hue is much more flattering to most skin tones.

So what would one do to transform the pure white netting to a darker shade?  I have read that it can be easily done by brewing weak tea and staining the gauze.  It’s a scary proposition.  If I ever do it, I’m going to go to my local fabric store and buy some white netting, and experiment. Or better yet, find a company that would do it for me.  Maybe the type of company that sells “dyed to match shoes”?

Another option is to use just the headpiece with an ivory netting.  We’ll see…I have four weddings to hope…

Update: Yea!  Maggie decided to wear my Wedding Headpiece!  And I have it on good authority that KK will as well.  Each girl will have her own veil to better match the colors of her dresses – but the headpiece…that will be mine.  Dare I hope my youngest two daughters will also wear it?  I can only hope…  🙂



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