All Star Wedding Blog Post


Today is an ” All Star Wedding Blog Post ” – some of the ‘best of the best’ tips I’ve given throughout my 2 years of wedding blogging.  My favorites may not be yours…so I just may have to write a second post!

  1. Mail your wedding invitations early AND on a Tuesday or Wednesday depending on how far they need to travel.  Why?  So hopefully the invites will arrive close to the weekend and your guests will have time to plan and RSVP.

2. All New Wedding Registry Ideas!- According to, “With or, you can register things like a dinner out, a night of hotel, or surf lessons to enjoy during the honeymoon (and you can fill out your own descriptions and get all cute and specific about it). Your friends and family feel like they’re gifting you a meaningful experience rather than just a gravy boat (even though they are essentially just giving you cash).”


My daughter, Maggie, and son-in-law, Robert, on their honeymoon Click on the link: The New Wedding Registry if you want to read the entire post.

3. Use special wedding postage stamps for your wedding invitations.  You invitations will likely be too heavy for a single stamp.  These lovely stamps are just the right amount for most stuffed invitations.  There are a variety of designs options as well.

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4.  Guest Complaints – I’d advise reading this entire post…  Just click on the link!  Top Five Guest Complaints – I will give you hint…the top complaint is a wedding around the holidays…


5. Duel Purpose items at your wedding.  Use decorations for two purposes and SAVE!


Check out my entire post on this: Duel Purpose Wedding Items Just click on the link!

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Top Five Guest Complaints


Whew!  The WEDDING is over!  You have mixed emotions.  You’re happy, you’re sad, you’re excited, you feel the “let down”.  But what you PROBABLY haven’t thought of is…the Top Five Guest Complaints.

Number 1 – No Open Bar –  Other than food, this is your biggest cost. If an open bar is not in your budget, consider a “Signature Cocktail” like the one in the photo above.  The cost for a single cocktail is much less than to stock a full bar.  Click on the following link, and read a previous blog post of mine Signature Cocktails for ideas.  Or…how about a wine and beer bar only?  It would keep your cost down, and you wouldn’t need to employ as many bartenders. This is provided your venue allows these options.  Your bar choice is a big one when you choose your venue/caterer.

Number 2 – Hosts’ Requested Dress Code What does this mean?  Simply… the bride, or family has a certain vision, i.e., something like a “Black Tie Affair” which requires women to wear a long gown, and men a tux.  Weddings are expensive, not just for the wedding couple and their families.  It’s expensive for the guests as well – from the bridal shower, bachelorette/bachelor party, travel, hotel accommodations, to the GIFT.  To add more expensive on top of that, in the form of wedding attire, is asking a lot.


Number 3 – Wedding Date Around the Holidays – both summer and winter – Yes…I know.  My last daughter’s wedding was July 3.  But actually, this presented minor convict.  Our guests seemed to schedule their holiday plans around our wedding.  But a winter wedding presents a whole other host of problems.  According to polled wedding guests, a wedding around the winter holidays, “…was less than ideal due to conflict of other holiday parties and events as well as the financial strain of holiday gift giving.” One must admit…it IS pretty though…  🙂


Number 4 – Lack of Entertainment – Wedding Guests Polled said, of the weddings they had attended in the last 18 months, “…the weddings that provided some sort of entertainment…” (either a photo booth, slow motion booth or speciality act/dancers), “…was more enjoyable than one which did not.”  Why?  Sometimes, as hosts, we get all wrapped up in our own joy, and forget the wedding is not as important to our guests as it is to us.  Don’t take yourself, or your event, too seriously…


Mary P Karnes photos

Number 5 – Lack of Options for Special  Needs – Yes…all the bounty of a “Sweets Table” looks lovely and lavish, but what about those who for dietary, allergic, or health reasons can’t partake?  Did you provide a low fat, or non- sugar, (i.e. cheese plate), option?  I must admit…I didn’t at either of my daughters’ weddings.  Yes, wedding cake, macaroons, Italian cookies, chocolate covered fruit, canolis, etc. were offered.  But thought to other options at the end of the evening were not considered.  A miss…but one not to be repeated next time!  🙂



Top Ten Wedding Guest Complaints


1. An inconvenient date.

Guests sometime get miffed when you plan your wedding around a time they think may be inconvenient for THEM.  I know the feeling.  We wanted to go to a wedding in California one year.  But it was in the beginning of December, and we always go to California for CHRISTMAS.  There was no way we could do both.  But then I took a step back and thought…was it really about ME and MY family, or the bride, groom and theirs?  The answer was pretty simple.


Wedding Guest at Maggie and Rob’s wedding.  They made the effort to join us!


2. Invitation confusion.

This is probably a big one, and an easy one to avoid.  Often times guests are uncertain if they are offered a “plus one” or if their children are invited.  Best thing to do…have an inner and outer envelope for the invitation.  On the inner envelope, write out the first names of everyone in the family/couple invited.  If your name isn’t there…you’re not invited.


KK and Tyler’s “Sweetheart Table”


3. Seating snafus.

Who sits where?  This ranges from the ceremony to the tables at the reception.  Let’s face it…you will never please everyone.  Ever.  It’s nice to sit family and very close friends up front at the ceremony, however, and try to arrange dinner seating so that guests will hopefully have someone they’re comfortable talking to.


KK and Tyler’s ceremony.


4. Pulling out the wallet.

A cash bar is a mixed bag of worms.  And that’s all I’m going to say about that…If you’d like to see Stefania’s thoughts, click on the link at the bottom of the post.



Brother, Matt and Sister, Amanda (Robert’s Sibs)

5. Climate crisis.

Not much you can do about the weather.  It rained on Maggie and Rob’s day, so we rented a tent.  It all worked out.  KK had great weather.  The venue had a permanent covering over the deck, but we didn’t need it. (Maybe something to look for at reception sites?)


Cute cousins of the groom (Robert’s) Photo creds: Patty Cloherty


6. Inedible food (or lack thereof).


Above, the family and attendants “snacking” while waiting for their turn with the photographer.  Best thing to do as a wedding couple, TRY the caterers’ food BEFORE you book.


7. Never-ending toasts or photo montages.


KK and Tyler wanted this shot, and others like it.  This meant leaving their guests before dinner to get them.  Have a cocktail hour!  Food and drink…guests are happy!


8. DJ, please stop the music.


LOVE this picture.  In it, I see Rob’s grandmother, Jackie “cutting a rug” and two of my bridesmaids daughters dancing with her.  What did this picture tell me?  Maggie and Rob did a good job selecting dance music that everyone could enjoy.  KK and Tyler did as well.  As the evening wore on, they selected music a little more to the younger side, which works too.


9. Disorganization to the max.

Another option for slow times, (provided there ARE any), is some sort of entertainment.  Below you see my first son-in-law, Robert, the second bride, KK,  and a friend in the “Slow Motion Booth” – a HIT!



10. Ungracious hosts.

No matter what…the bride and groom should ALWAYS made the rounds and greet all guests.  No exceptions.


Above, Maggie and Rob with friend/guest Christina.

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Top Ten Wedding Guest Complaints  click here to read the article from which I gleaned the  10 topics if you’d like more thoughts.