Are Weddings Getting Out Of Hand?

Are weddings getting out of hand?  I remember my wedding 33 years ago. For the time, it was a big, generous wedding…a sit down dinner with a band for over 200.  But as I see my own daughters marry, work as an event planner and witness others’ nuptials, I see a new trend.  I love all the creative, lavish ideas, don’t get me wrong!  But weddings today are much more “splashy”.

I was struck recently by the contrast of weddings of days gone by and today’s “standard”.  What  struck a cord?…you may ask… Well, the age old job of ‘cleaning the basement.’  I ran across so many of my wedding keepsakes, and the contrast between my special items, and those of my daughters’ gave me pause.

Below, my weddings shoes.  Granted, they were the most expensive shoes, at that time, that I had ever purchased.  But they are simple, and yes…I wore them for years after.  Because, hey!  Why let a perfectly good pair of white pumps sit dormant in the spring and summer!

My daughters’ shoes follow.  While I do think perhaps they were a little extravagant, I love them, and wouldn’t change a thing.  Seriously, how cute are they?!?!  Maggie’s are the top photo followed by KK’s. Kathleen has her little sisters playing handmaiden and buckling her wedding shoes.  What else are bridesmaids supposed to do – especially little sisters!

And one pair of wedding shoes was not enough for our KK.  🙂  She needed a pair of “dancing’ shoes”!  Actually, a good choice.  She was comfortable all night.

Photo creds: Hannah Colt

What about guest books?  In my day, you were living large if you had a book and a feathered pen.  The photo below is of my 33 year old pen. And yes!  Our names are engraved in tiny letters on the stand, JUST IN CASE, you forgot our names when you signed our book!

Below is an adorable “guest book” idea.  I worked this wedding, held at an old-fashioned airport hanger.  The groom was a pilot, their guest book, a wooden prop!  Love, love this!

And have you noticed the cake toppers lately?  Works of art.  Behold…blelow is MY 33 year old cake topper…

Really… It should have bothered me that the bride was a blond, and I am most decidedly a brunette!  But…it didn’t   🙂  My daughters had exquisite cake toppers, both gifted to them by their generous mothers-in-law.  As the wedding cake is often a focal point of your reception, a special cake topper is money well spent.  Please note the girls’ cakes below:

Hannah Colt photos

Patty Cloherty Photos

So what’s my final take on whether weddings are “getting out of hand”?  Perhaps on some levels…but not on items that count in my book.  Go for the creative guest book, the gorgeous cake topper, and especially the special shoes!

New Guestbook Ideas

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So you want to remember all the guests who attended your wedding?  Easier to do these days as everyone has a smart phone with a camera.  In fact, your wedding may make it’s debut on social media even before you do!  But that’s a whole other blog…check back tomorrow for that one.

When Kenny and I got married 31 years ago, we had the standard white guestbook.  Maggie and Rob had the same.  KK and Tyler, however, are going to have something more innovative.  I have been doing my research.  There are a lot of new guestbook ideas out there!  I have become quite the pininterest addict, www.pininterest.com, and ran across the CUTEST ideas for recording the attendance of your wedding guests, all from weddingchicks.com.  The photo above is my favorite.  I love the concept of having pictures, via poloroid photos – (you young ones may not know what they are!).  Down side… the photos of this type fade. Lovely idea, though.

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The wooden state of California above, serves three purposes.  Guests are invited to sign sections of wood on the state model, providing the wedding couple with a  lasting keepsake of their guests.  Secondly, it appears to tie in to a “Western” type theme.   Note the lovely succulents around it, and third, it can be a piece of art for the couple’s new home.

Another novel idea, and a practical one to boot, is the photo below.  A bride can purchases a desk calendar, then ask her guests to sign their name on their birthdate!  Not only is it innovative, but the new couple now has a complete record of friends and family’s birthdays.

 

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The idea below is interesting, but not as generic.  But hey, if you’re a music buff, I can’t think of anything much nicer than a lovely instrument with all your wedding guests’ autographs!

 

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