Wedding Wisdom from the Hair Salon

Wedding Wisdom from the Hair Salon?  That’s right…wherever women gather, that’s the best place to glean knowledge.  What better locale than a hair salon?

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I was relaxing at my most recent hair appointment, enjoying chatting with the young stylist who was new to me.  Sadly, my regular stylist moved and I to find another.  Ladies, you know this isn’t fun.  Luckily, Kayla was a delight, and was pretty handy with the scissors.  I admit…I’m a little bit of an eaves dropper…  And when I heard the stylist and her client next to us start talking about weddings, I had to jump in!  The talk had gone to the best wedding of the season – typical wedding season is April to October.  The stylist does a lot of wedding hair at her salon, in fact she did both my daughters’.  And apparently the client attended many weddings this season.

So, I jumped in, and asked, “So what makes a wedding a good one?  What makes it fun/a success?”

What they both answered surprised me.  I thought they may say extravagance, fabulous food and drink, over the top decorations and favors.  No.  Both ladies answered they wanted to get the party started.  They wanted to dance as soon as possible.  As soon as cocktail hour was over, and the bridal party announced, THE WANTED TO DANCE.

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So I am modifying the timeline I have historically recommended to my brides.  As soon as cocktail hour is over, begin your first dance as bride and groom, and then invite your guests to join you on the dance floor.  Then take a little break and hold the toasts. KEEP THE TOASTS SHORT.  Yes, I realize you don’t have much control over this, but plead with your toasters and ask them keep their speeches to 2-3 minutes.  Limit the number of people you ask to speak also.  Father of the bride, best man, and maid/matron on honor at the most.

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Then, dance!  Brief break again, and dance your “Special Dances” Father/Bride and Mother/Groom.  I suggest either sharing the dance floor for one song, (although I realize this is NOT an option for most), or dance to a truncated version of each song.

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Then DANCE!  Lastly, cut your cake, and keep it brief.

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Then you can get back to what the guests say they really want to do, dance, enjoy cocktails and visit with friends.  Hopefully you will get a few photos like the ones below…

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Photo 1 – Pinterest

Photos – 2, 4, 5, 8 – Patty Cloherty

Photo – 3, 6, 7, 10 – Hannah Colt

Photo 9 – Stage 6 – Media

 

Ingenious Wedding Ideas – Part II

My blog post “Ingenious Wedding Ideas” was so well received, I thought I’d write a “Part II”.  Buzzed.com wrote a delightful article about Ingenious Wedding Ideas, and I’m sharing the best with you.  Many aren’t new to me, but a few were.  If you’d like to read the entire buzzfeed article, click on the link.  But never fear…I have hit the highlights for you, and included my own take on their suggestions.

  1. Consider high-velocity blower fans – This is an excellent idea, one that I suggested more than once this summer.

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The wedding from the above photos was at an old-fashioned airport hanger.  It was terrific and very beautiful.  But it…was…hot.  It was close to 100 degrees, and that’s hot in Southern New England.  I recommended renting industrial fans, and it was a good call. Keep this idea on your check list if you’re planning a summer wedding.

2. Put camping lanterns underneath tablecloths to create a glowing evening lighting idea.

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Love this idea, inexpensive, yet beautiful.  This treatment creates a magical feel.  Perfect for you summer wedding.

3. If your outdoor venue permits it, have a bonfire.

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Nothing says “Party” like a bonfire, especially in New England.  All my teens enjoyed many a bonfire in their high school years.  And, hey, if you use modified trash cans and they have the bride and groom’s initials, all the better!

4. A photo frame, hanging from a ribbon, can create an inexpensive photo booth

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Love this idea.  You get all the perks of a photo booth, without the cost!  Come on!  Everyone has a cell phone camera, let’s use ’em!  Who needs the expensive of one or two more vendors!

5. Use cupcake wrappers to keep bugs out of your guests drinks.

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This…is brilliant!

Photos # 1 and # 2 Mary P. Karnes

Ingenious Ideas for Outdoor Weddings

Buzzfee.com wrote a nice article about Ingenious Ideas for Outdoor Weddings.  I have picked a few of my favorite ideas from the article to share with you. If you’d like to read the whole article, click on the provided link…Buzzfeed.com…but my take on the article is really all you need.  🙂

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Advise your female guests about the best footwear for your outdoor affair.  And for your bridesmaids and other important female guests, spring for these nifty little heel supporters.  They’re great!  I have long been an advocate for these gems.  None of us like our heels ruined in the grass…

Offer ice cold drinks to waiting guests.  Summer weddings can be brutal on guests waiting for the start of your wedding, especially if there’s no shade.

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Behold, an almost empty tub from a wedding I worked this summer.  It was once full of ice and chilled water bottles, but the guests took good advantage of the thoughtful gesture.

Individual inset repellent. I LOVE this idea.  I always encouraged my brides to provide cans of bug spray for their guests, but it’s messy, and takes awhile to make the rounds of the guests.  To have a vat of individual applications is nothing short of genius.

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If you anticipate a REALLY hot day, ask your florist to mist the wedding flowers periodically throughout the day.  If you live in hot climes, consider writing that in your floral contract.  If your florist balks, recruit a family member to do the chore.

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This is a big one… Choose a strong make-up fixative/setting spray that will hold up to the heat.  This is not an occasion where you want your make-up running.  There are too many important photos at stake!

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There are many more wonderful ideas…next post, I’ll share additional items!

Father of the Bride Speech

Father of the Bride Speech

…The father of the bride… This post is dedicated to all those dads, and father figures out there whom we women tend to put in the background until we need a check written 🙂 , or to schedule a suit/tux fitting.  But the Father of the Bride has two enormous roles — that of walking his daughter down the aisle, and giving the reception opening speech/toast.

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Above: My oldest, Kathleen, having a  little chat, and it looks like a giggle, with her dad before they walk down the aisle.  Below, Kenny and daughter number two, Maggie, on HER walk down the aisle.  Poor Kenny.  He had to do it twice in two years!

Think about it…when you, the father of the bride, escort your daughter down the aisle, it is the first time the guests will view the beautiful bride.  It’s your job to support her, both figuratively and literally, and keep her calm.  But you can do it…you’ve been doing it her entire life.

But after that monumental task is completed, you have one more, equally as important…that of opening the reception/toasting the new bride and groom.  This is not easy.  Just ask any Father who has ever done it.  One must find the right balance between sentiment and a chuckle, praising your daughter, as well as your new son.  And don’t forget the thank yous…especially to your wife and those who may have traveled a long distance.

But here’s the really sticky issue that is not often thought of OR practiced.  If you can… PLEASE don’t use notes.  It takes away from the solemnness of the event.  It looks as if you didn’t give time to memorize it or give the speech the attention it deserves.  Now there are exceptions to this… 1) if you are the maid/matron of honor or the best man – notes are fine.  You do not have the head role of “Father of the Bride” – OR… 2) if you have a phobia about public speaking or are too emotional to get through it without a prop – by all means, use the notes!

Above, my husband toasting Maggie.  Three of my four daughters are listening, in the two photos above and in the picture below.  Rarely have I been as proud of Kenny as when he gave speeches at both girls’ weddings.  It seemed effortless…but I know it was not.  I think almost as many people complimented me on his speeches as the beauty of the brides…well…not quite… 🙂

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Kathleen, on the right, looks a little emotional, doesn’t she!

All photos: Patty Cloherty