Not seeing each other on the wedding day UNTIL the ceremony. I’d say about half of the weddings I worked on this summer had a “First Look” photo session. “What is this?”, you may ask. It’s a pre-ceremony photo shoot of the bride, groom, sometimes attendants and family. Why is this done? So the principles can get right to cocktail hour and party with their guests. But I prefer the first look below (my daughter, Maggie and son-in-law, Robert). Could there be a sweeter look, or one filled with more love, than the look Rob gives his bride when he first sees her? I love this photo.
With four daughters, I am all for “hosting a more simple reception”! In the 50’s and 60’s, wedding receptions were often just punch and cake. And really why not? When did it become the norm to serve a full cocktail hour, and a five course dinner to our wedding guests? Truly not necessary. Enjoyable, yes, but necessary…no.
3. Taking a month long Honeymoon – I could totally get behind this one! How dreamy to take an extended honeymoon with your new husband! But this was back in the day when couples didn’t live together years before they said, “I do.” Say what you want about the practicality of this arrangement, it DOES take some of the sparkle away from setting up your home as “husband and wife”.
Where do you think the term, “Morning Suit” came from? From the British and their tradition of morning weddings, to include a “Wedding Breakfast”. This would help keep the cost of a reception down as well. While you may have a Bloody Mary or Mimosa request from a guest or two, your bar tab would be significantly less. Even the beautiful royal couple, William and Kate, had a morning affair!
Lost Wedding Traditions…A family member sent me an article a few days ago about “Classic Wedding Traditions That Should Be Brought Back” from ‘Country Living Magazine’. Click on the link if you’d like to read the whole article. I picked my favorites, and will share with you. 🙂
Making a “Grand Exit”. Yes, brides and grooms these days want the photo of a “Grand Exit” but do they really leave? No. There is more often than not an “After Party”. For those of us from an older generation, this is how it works: The younger set moves onto another location and they continue partying with the bride and groom. But I LOVE the old time glamour of waving the bride and groom off as they start their new life together.
The bride in the above photo is pictured in her gown, AND her going away suit. Remember those, ‘ladies of a certain age’? I had a going away suit, and a posy of my favorite flowers, violets, to pin on it.
2. Freezing a slice, or the top tier, of your wedding cake. I did this, and so did my girls. But I think it is becoming a thing of the past. Most weddings I worked on this summer had a different dessert from the traditional cake. And those who had cake? Well, they didn’t freeze any of it. Think you may like to freeze YOUR cake? Click on the link to a previous blog post, Preserving the Top Tier of Your Wedding Cake Do you need help defrosting your cake? Click on the next link: Defrosting the Top Tier of Your Wedding Cake
Above, daughter Maggie’s wedding cake. If you’re going to freeze a tier, make sure you get an extra one, as Maggie did, so you don’t have to freeze too much. You just need a bit, but it will be taste better if you freeze an entire section. Photo cred: Patty Cloherty
3. Serve a Groom’s Cake. Now this really IS a thing of the past. I have been married lost 33 years, and none of my friends had a “Groom’s cake. If you’d like to read more about this luscious option, click on the link Groom’s Cake.