The Etiquette of a Wedding

The Etiquette of a Wedding …



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So you’re chosen your venue, your menu; but how will you set your table?  Well, whether it’s a “formal” affair, or less so, rely on your venue site coordinator, your caterer or your wedding planner to guide you. Just in case they are uncertain, you can reference the chart above.  If you choose the more formal setting, just remember…you probably can’t seat as many guests per table as you could at a “less formal” setting — too many serving pieces!


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And how will you advise your guests for their attire on your big day?  Once again, listen to your consultants.  But the above chart is a good one.  It even advises a woman on her hair and make-up!


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And oh!  Don’t forget the all important wedding/new married couple monogram!  I’m not sure I know how to decipher that.  But never fear…if you really want to know how to break this code, there is a handy chart above.


Still in a daze when it comes to all the subtle niceties?  Then I highly recommend reading an iconic book such as the “Post Book” above.  When I was a girl, Emily Post was the the social guru.  Then her daughter, Peggy, who writes the Foreword in the book above.  The present day authors are maybe her daughters?

Yes, wedding etiquette is a slippery slope, but there are wonderful resources out there.  Use them.



What To Wear Or Not To Wear

As we enter “High Wedding Season”, (the Fall has taken over Spring as the number one season for weddings), I found an interesting article by Julia Friedman from “The Bustle”.  If you’d like to read the entire article, just click on the link below.  I took her eight rules of what to wear to a wedding, shortened it to five, 🙂 and wrote my own commentary on each topic.  What to wear or NOT to wear to a wedding…

1. There should only be one white dress in the room


I don’t care what anyone says…no one wears white except the bride, or any shade there of.  You will have your day, let the bride have hers.  An exception…if the bride requests a “Black and White Wedding” where all guests are asked to wear either…black or white!

2. Remember The Rule of One
It is ok to show one…one sexy component in your attire…either cleavage, a cutout, long legs in a mini, or a revealing back…but NOT more than one…
The lovely lady above is showing just a little too much… of both leg and cleavage, or belly button!!
3. Read The Invitation
The bride’s invitation will give you plenty of clues on how to dress.  If it says “Black Tie” – formal attire is required,  “Semi-Formal” less so, “Casual Attire” – More relaxed togs — but never shorts, jeans or flip-flops.  When in doubt, just ask the bride.  It’s not a state secret!

4. Be Color Conscious

Consider avoiding solid color dresses to lessen the chance of matching the bridesmaids.  But again, it usually isn’t a secret what the bride has chosen for her colors.  Just avoid those!



5. Better To Be Over-Dressed Than Under


Probably not the best wedding look…even for a beach wedding or casual affair…  Lots of work to be a good guest, but I’m sure you’d appreciate the same thoughtfulness.



Read the entire article by Julia Friedman from “The Bustle”