Shall We Bring Back Headpieces For Bridesmaids ?

Headpieces for bridesmaids were once a mandatory accessory.  Why?  One reason, the Roman Catholic Church, pre-Vatican II, required all women to have their heads covered upon entering a Catholic Church.  So it became a wedding tradition for all bridesmaids.  Below is a photo of Princess Grace of Monaco’s bridesmaids.  Love the hats, but looks like they’re having a little trouble keeping them on in the outdoor breeze.


I hope my aunt won’t mind too much…below is a photo of my darling Aunt Judy at her sister Ginger’s wedding.  She is pictured with my maternal grandparents…I love this photo.   I had never seen it before. I ran across it on Facebook, which gave me the idea for this post.  Aunt Judy doesn’t look too happy with her headpiece.  But it WAS the 60’s…  🙂  Hummm…I wonder what the bride’s colors were…?


Below is another take on bridesmaids’ hair accessories.  While not quite my vision, it does buy into a resurrection of bridesmaids’ headpieces. I think I like the flower girl’s flower wreath better…



I ADORE these gowns…every color is lovely, as are all the varying styles.  The hues really compliment each other.  And what about the flowers in the ladies’ hair?  I hope they aren’t real, as at the end of the evening, I bet they’d be droopy…



The photo above is probably a realistic modern day option for bridesmaid headwear.  It’s small but stylish.  The popularity of the European royals, and their love of hats, has increased OUR devotion here in the States.  I believe the hat above would compliment any attire without being overly dramatic, as the above flowers were.  Heck, those flowers were so sensational, no one may have noticed the bride.  I can hear it now…”Are those real flowers?” Or…how are those flowers anchored on their heads?!?”  🙂

If you’d like to read a post on Bridesmaid’s duties, click on the link!  Bridesmaid’s Duties



The New Bridesmaid


The New Bridesmaid…  According to “The Hartford Magazine” article ‘Pretty Maids All in a Row’ by Sarah Wesley Lemire, the average bridesmaid spends roughly $ 1,500 for the honor of being a bride’s attendant.  The amount increases if she has to travel, which may include train or airfare, rental car, etc. Her accommodations should be paid for by the bride or the  bride’s family.  This is to include the night prior to the wedding and the night of the event.


Top Two Photos from Lady Kitty Spencer’s Instagram

There is a new trend afoot!  Some brides are allowing their bridesmaids to choose their own gown.  In the two photos above, (taken from Lady Kitty Spencer’s instagram – If you have a good memory, she is the niece of the late Diana, Princess of Wales.  Lady Kitty is the daughter of Diana’s brother, Earl Spencer.  Any daughters of an earl have the title, “Lady”.

But I digress… As you can see in the photos above, even the aristocracy is embracing this new trend.  The bride, Lady Kitty’s friend, didn’t even designate a color palate for her maids to choose from.  She apparently said something like, “Choose a long gown you like, and wear it!”  I think it’s delightful.  Even the bride is a little avant-garde, choosing a bridal gown with a pattern.


From “Hartford Magazine”

The “Choose Your Own Bridesmaid Dress” style has also made it to our side of the pond.  In the photos above, the bride allowed her maids to choose gowns from her color palate, but ones the girls felt comfortable in, and hopefully fit in their budgets.


Tarah Zeiner & her bridal party, wearing Faber designs -From “Hartford Magazine”

Same is true for the lovely Tarah in the picture above.  All bridesmaids are dressed in navy, (if you’d like to read my blog post about “A Navy Blue Wedding” click on the link!), but each lady chose a different gown style. Thoughtful both of different body types and budgets.  I love it!

Sisters of the Bride


Sisters of the bride —

Everyone wants to give their children what they didn’t have.  And in one way, I’ve done that.  Yes, I have many wonderful women friends, and a “close as a sister cousin’, Kim — but I am an only child.  My girls have each other.  How many women can say they have THREE sisters?  Not many.  And while they can bicker with the best of them – they are close, and I truly believe, always will be.


Getting our KK ready for her ceremony was surely a family affair.  All her sisters had something to contribute, whether is was Julia putting on KK’s “Something Borrowed” (my silver marquisette necklace and earrings in the top photo), to Tess adjusting her headpiece, (mine – worn at my wedding 32 years ago, and most recently by Maggie at her wedding last year — think I can talk Tess and Julia into wearing it in a few years at THEIR weddings??? – Hope so…)  – To Maggie adjusting the final satin covered buttons in the photo above.


I love how our photographer hung KK’s dress in the windows and created this romantic view in the picture above.  As I think I told you in a previous post, I was right behind Hannah, our photographer, snapping her artistic creations with my little iPhone.  🙂  You may not have seen it, but KK’s dress had a lovely train.  If you have a train, you must have a bustle sewn in.  It is an extra, to be added by only an expert wedding dress seamstress – and there are many types, depending on your dress and fabric style.  Check out my post, Wedding Dress Bustles, for more detail!


And in our final photo, my four girls are together, posing happily with their sister.  KK has often said she doesn’t really resemble her sisters, favoring her dad, my husband, more than I, but I don’t know…I think I see a likeness…what about you?

Photo creds: All Mary P Karnes

Brides’ Duties to Their Maids


We talked about your bridesmaids’ responsibilities to you, the bride, but what are your responsibilities to them?  As the bride, try to be considerate of your bridesmaids’ pocketbooks.  When choosing dresses, choose a gown that is not too pricey.  You know they’ll never wear it again…Same goes for the shoes.

For my daughter, KK’s summer wedding, she is asking only that her bridesmaids wear gold shoes/sandles.



As three of her bridesmaids are my own daughters, I appreciate this.  My youngest daughter, Julia, has picked out some sandals, (remember, we have a casual theme), that she had already desired.  How often does THAT happen?  Luckily, all KK’s attendants are within driving range, so air fare is not a factor.  But when it comes to providing lodging the night before the wedding and the night of, you or your parents are responsible.  It can be your home, that of a near relative or a hotel.  But it is yours.  You must also ensure that your bridesmaids have a safe ride with a designated ‘alcohol free’ driver from the reception to their lodgings.  On the night of the wedding, they are your responsibility.

The bride also traditionally gives a “Bridesmaids’ Luncheon” shortly prior to the wedding.  This is the occasion where she says “thank you” and presents the ladies with a keepsake gift of her special day.  I love the two photos above.  The tables have a different feel, but both are exquisite.  Your luncheon need not be extravagant, just a small time to relax, reminisce and gear up for WEDDING!


Although not mandatory, if you DO plan a luncheon, the cookies above would be the perfect favors.  The beauty of these, you could ice them in any color to match your theme.  I rather like the green…


Going quite formal?  The invitation above is pretty AND informative!  I had found that paperless post, has provided the best customer service both electronically and on paper.  And they quality’s excellent, too.