Bridesmaid Duties

Bridesmaid duties … real or ceremonial? Have you heard about the Bride who “fired” one of her bridesmaids via email?  The rejected bridesmaid then shared the email on twitter.  I just glanced at a few tweets, and the bride was crucified by other tweeters!  What do you think about it?

I probably am one of the few who was on the side of the bride.  While I would encourage any daughter of mine, or client NOT to “fire” an attendant, fact is, the “Twitter Bridesmaid” wasn’t doing her job. Based on the email to the bridesmaid, which she shared on twitter, (how’s that for a friend? Even though she blacked out the bride’s last name, everyone in their social circle knew who she was), the “fired” bridesmaid did absolutely nothing for the bride in her role as honor attendant.  When asked to be an attendant, the young lady should have thanked the bride prettily, and declined the honor.  If you don’t have the time or the money to be a bridesmaid, gracefully decline.  Because being a wedding attendant is expensive and time consuming.  You are expected to buy your own dress, shoes, gifts, (shower, bachelorette, and wedding), and travel.  (The bride should spring for your housing the night before the wedding and the night of the wedding however).  You should do your best to attend ALL pre-wedding events – but the rehearsal, rehearsal dinner, wedding… UNTIL THE END, are non-negotiable.  If you can’t be at those events, you shouldn’t be a bridesmaid. Period.

According to the brief email, the “fired” bridesmaid shared on twitter, it appeared that she attended no pre-wedding events, (I took it to include the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner, but could be wrong), and wanted to fly back before the reception was over.  Again, if the bride were my daughter or client, I’d encourage her to suck it up and deal with the lack-luster bridesmaid; but the twitter bride was well within her scope of expectations to “fire” her friend.  As for the email, she probably thought things would be less heated via the written word, and she offered to speak if the bridesmaid desired.

Perhaps “Bridesmaidzillas” are why some brides are opting to have only family members as honor attendants, (as one of my daughters did),  or have no bridesmaids at all. Perhaps that’s why the English use children?  …less temperamental than grown women.  I think Brides today are trying to make it easier on their attendants.  Note the photo above.  The bride from this wedding I did allowed her attendants to wear dresses they felt good in.  The colors were not even expected to be in the same color palate.

Moral…Brides be sensitive to the costs, both monetary and time, to your attendants; and bridesmaids, say “No, but thank you,” if you can’t do the job.

 

Shoes for the Bride AND the Bridesmaids!

Shoes for the bride AND her bridesmaids. Think your footwear is not a big deal?  That your dress will cover your feet anyway?  You’d be wrong.  With today’s hot wedding pictures of “the bride and her shoes”, you want to make sure you’re adequately shod.  But what about comfort?  That is also important.

Worry no more!  There’s a wonderful new option in town.  For great quality, flattering style and reasonable prices, you must check out fibs & clo.  What I especially like about this company is not just the “cuteness” of the shoes, or the reasonable prices, but the way the company stands behind their product.  In today’s age of on-line purchases, you need to be sure of what you’re ordering, what the return policies are AND the quality.  Fibi & Clo is a company you can count on.

Not a bride yet, or ever?  Well, you can still enjoy these great sandals.  Order with confidence that you’ll get great quality, style and customer service. What more can you ask?

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Still want to wear your high heels and get some epic bridal shoe photos? You can!  Grab your fantasy shoe, get your dream pics, and then switch to the equally, although different, dancin’ sandals from fibi & clo

The photo above is one of my favorites featuring colored wedding shoes.  angel marino photos

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Professional Bridesmaids — Is It Really a Thing?

Professional Bridesmaids — is it really a thing?  Apparently…it is!

In the two photos above, you see my four daughters at daughter number 1 and daughter number 2’s weddings.  My girls have built-in bridesmaids. The two younger girls, now 17 and 20, have already been in 3 weddings.  (They were flower girls at a tender age)  Heck , maybe this is a profession they may want to pursue!  They have enough experience!  🙂  Not all brides are as lucky as my daughters, however.  I have heard, and have seen, horror stories about less than attentive bridesmaids.  If you hire a professional, you have more control.  Concerned about the hairstyle of your attendants?  Write it into your “professional” contract that your bridesmaid not cut her hair until AFTER the wedding.  Want your girls to wear their hair in an “undo”? Write that in too!

So what exactly does a “Professional Bridesmaid” do?  Well, exactly what a friend or relative would.  According to the knot.com, duties include“…planning and arranging bridal showers, bachelorette parties, wedding speeches, wedding day logistics and managing email chains and group texts.”

Let’s face it. In today’s world, ladies are thrilled to be a tapped as an honor attendant, but life can get in the way of doing a good job.  If one’s JOB is to be a bridesmaid, she can make your wedding her top priority.  But would this really make you happy?

The girls as “Little Girls”

There is something so magical about the bond that ladies share as they support their friend or relative in the months and days leading up to her wedding.  And note the photo above when my daughters were much younger.  Standing up for their sisters on the most important day of their lives is just another page in their book of memories.  Some things just can’t be bought…

Photo creds: #1 Hannah Colt

The Infinity Bridesmaid Dress

The Infinity Bridesmaid Dress – one dress, so many options!  The attire for brides’ attendants in the last couple of years has made a dramatic change.  No long must ladies’ dresses match.  Brides are being very generous to their attendants.  They are allowing them to choose the fabric, style, color and price point that best fits their needs. Usually, a color palate is suggested.  But all else is up for grabs.

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And what do I mean about an “Infinity” dress?  Well, take a look at the above photo and all the options for it!  Pick your neckline, back, sleeves or no sleeves…I love it! Not your favorite, well, look at all the other options on this post!  The dresses in the next photo are all different, yet they have the same air.  They all have gauzy, floaty skirts, but differing necklines and colors.  The hues flow and compliment each other.

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Feeling a little more glam?  Love the beauties below. These gowns would definitely be for an evening affair.  I think it works to have differing hemlines as well.  Perhaps one lady has great legs and wants to show them off — opt for a short skirt!  Have a generous bustling  you’re proud of?  Choose one with a more plunging neckline.  It’s a win-win for all.

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The next two photos have ladies dressed in all the same color, but differing styles.  This works for me.  And I think these girls really COULD wear their dresses again!  If you look closely, the bouquets the ladies in red are varying as well.

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Love the yellow color below.  But I think long gowns for bridesmaids is on the way out.  Especially with a light informal color such as the yellow.  I see this hue as a light casual spring/summer wedding.  Lovely.

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