Five Biggest Wedding Guest Bloopers



I sometimes think wedding guests should read up on wedding etiquette before attending a wedding, not just the bride and groom.  Below, I have listed my 5 biggest ‘Wedding Guest Bloopers’ or to be more blunt, my pet peeves.

Female guests, do not, repeat DO NOT wear a white dress to a wedding.  This is not ok.  Times have not changed to allow for this. Exceptions:

  1. If a bride REQUESTS an “All White Wedding”, and asks her guests to wear white, then do it!  (Think Kim Kardashian’s second marriage)
  2. Often attendants in the UK wear white, think Kate Middleton.

Dear Wedding Guests!!  Under no circumstances highjack the photographer during Cocktail Hour when most couples take bride/groom, and family photos.  Yes, you may have a daughter or son in the bridal party, and would “just love to get a quick snap” with him/her.  But remember…weddings are run on a very tight timeline.  Not only are you potentially throwing it off, but you are taking away from the bride and groom’s “Cocktail Hour” time with their guests. Talk to your photographer, wedding coordinator, or even your mom in advance to gently encourage theses guests to return to the party if this situation occurs.  There will probably be time later in the evening after all the mandatory wedding shots are taken.



I am constantly shocked at the number of guests who arrive AFTER the ceremony has started. A good guest should arrive, at a minimum, 15-20 minutes before the start of the wedding.  If something unavoidable occurs and you must be late, stand in the back if it’s an outdoor ceremony, or wait outside of the church or synagogue until an appropriate time to enter.  Don’t interrupt the proceedings!


Do not bring packages to the reception.  Cards are fine, but if you choose to give a gift from the couple’s registry or some other wrapped item, send it to the bride’s home.  Remember, someone at the end of the evening has to make sure all those gifts get safely home.

Don’t drink too much. Yes usually the alcoholic beverages are included complimentary for the guests.  But don’t be that guest who causes a scene.  Remember to eat as you consume alcoholic beverages.  And if you’re driving, make sure you get an uber, or designated driver if your transportation is provided by the hosts.

Cold As Ice – A Book Review

I love to read.  I read to relax, to escape.  And there is no better series for this pleasure that Julie Mulhern’s Country Club Mystery Series.  Guess what?  Mulhern’s latest, COLD AS ICE, is available for preorder now; and you’ll receive it October 17, 2017!  I was lucky enough to have had the great pleasure of reading an advanced copy.  My initial thought?  I DON’T KNOW HOW MULHERN DOES IT!  COLD AS ICE is the best book in the series yet.  It’s still funny, but in this book, Mulhern goes into more depth of each main character.  Did I think I could learn more about them?  In my cockiness, no. Did I?  Yes!  I grew to know and love the characters more.  A favorite aspect of this series? The strong women represented.  This strikes a tender cord in my heart.  I am the mother of four daughters, and I like to think I’ve raised them to be warriors.  But this is much easier in our day and age than in the 70’s.  Yes, that’s right.  Another thing to love about the Country Club Mystery Series. It’s set in the seventies, my teen years.  Love the walk down memory lane.

According to the Barnes and Noble description of COLD AS ICE, “Ellison Russell’s life resembles a rollercoaster ride. And rollercoasters make her ill. Her daughter Grace has a crush on a boy Ellison doesn’t trust and she’s taken to hosting wild parties when Ellison goes out for the evening. Worse, the bank which represents Grace’s inheritance from her father may be in trouble.

When a meeting with the chef at the country club leads to the discovery of a body, Ellison can’t afford cold feet. She must save the bank, find the killer, and convince Grace (and herself) that powerful women don’t need men to rescue them.”

Above, the beautiful Julie Mulhern, author of the Country Club Mystery Series.

Is there a wedding in this book…no. But if there were, I’d like to think Ellison, the heroine of the series, would choose a winter wedding like the one above.  And, given that the series is written in the 70’s, she’d have little backlash wearing a gorgeous fur.  Summer wedding?  Love the colored wedding gown below.  I’ll never marry again, 33 years and going strong, thank you very much, but in an alternative universe?  I’d choose a soft shade like the one below. I think Ellison would too. Her mother, President of the Junior League, would accept nothing else.  🙂


You can pre-order now from various retailers.  You can go to the side bar on this blog and type in “COLD AS ICE” in the amazon search box.   This will direct you to the “COLD AS ICE” amazon page.  If you prefer Barnes and Noble, a link is provided.  COLD AS ICE will be available October 17, 2017.

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The Prosecco Van

Brides the world over are always trying to find the new and different way to set their nuptials apart from the masses.  The UK has a new trend… According to the Bubble Brothers Website:


We started the Prosecco Van concept back in 2015 and have been traveling around the UK with our little Ape ever since.

We’ve served at hundreds of weddings and private events and have also poured bubbly by the glass to thousands of people at festivals all over the country including the inimitable Glastonbury.”

The team even has a second option: the “Bubble Bike”!

“The sidecar-bar has been modified into a sparkling wine bar serving ice cold bubbly on tap, straight from the barrel and chilled to perfection on pour. The neat size of the Bubble Bike means that it will fit into most event spaces, both indoor and out, so is an ideal alternative to The Prosecco Van for those venues with space restrictions.

The Bubble Bike is a truly unique addition to any wedding, party or event so be sure to book early to avoid disappointment.”

I’m not sure if we have something like this in the states, but we should have!  I think brides and private parties alike would love this concept.  And what makes it more special than, say, waiters pouring a little of the bubbly into guests’ glasses?  Well, the option to try different types of prosecco, and the pure novelty of it.  For example, one can order pizza to be served at their wedding.  But pizza trucks have become all the rage.  Why?  The fun!  The guests can watch the process, smell the pizza baking.  It’s more than just the food…it’s the experience!

All photos from the prosecco van website: prosecco van

the bubble brothers


Care Of Your Engagement Ring

Do you know how to take care of your engagement ring?  There’s more involved than just cleaning it. When my daughters became engaged, the first thing I did was buy them a ring holder.  There are so many options, from the darling framed one below, to the more traditional “Waterford Crystal” style.


Next,  I offered my best advice to the girls…and I’ll share it with you…Your engagement ring belongs in only two places – either on your finger or on your ring holder.  No exceptions, ever.  If you employe this practice, you won’t loose your ring.   You’ll always know where it is.


Get your ring inspected frequently, at least as often as recommended by the purchasing jeweler.  Many companies will offer a replacement program if you have your ring inspected, AND you loose your stone from the setting.


Get your ring insured!!  It is a huge investment for your fiancé.  Second to your home and car, it’s probably then next big ticket item.  You’ve insured those, insure your ring as well.  If you’re lucky enough to own a home at this stage in your life, don’t go through your homeowner’s insurance. There are companies who specialize in insuring jewelry, and their rates are more competitive.  I use Jewelers Mutual. Thankfully, I’ve never had a claim.


When cleaning your ring, I’d advise a professional solution sold at a jewelry store…or you may want to try this: (although I have not and can not attest to it’s safety)

“Rumors are not always true, and that goes for home ring cleaning tips too. Lathering your engagement ring in toothpaste or dusting it with baking soda and putting it in the oven is a mistake. If you want to clean your ring at home, try one part dish soap and five parts warm water. Soak your ring for five minutes, take it out and scrub it with a soft-bristled toothbrush dipped in the solution. Rinse, dry, and marvel at the sparkle.” from



And the ring below…just because it’s GORGEOUS!  🙂