Honoring Loved Ones Who Can’t Attend Your Wedding

What’s the best way of honoring loved ones who can’t attend your wedding? There are a lot of options.  Sadly, some of the people you most want to attend your wedding won’t be able to.  Perhaps they have passed away, are older, or not able to travel.  Maybe they are ill.  Don’t forget to think of them on your special day.   Know they are thinking of you…

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The photos above and below are lovely ways to keep absent loved ones in your thoughts, and the thoughts of your guests.  The photo above is self explanatory. But the fireworks below…well, I found a photo of some sparklers, and thought THAT would be a delightful, large, positive way to say, “You’re not here, but you are…”

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The photo on the chair is a tried and true way to keep a memory alive.  This is an graceful option, and needs no sign or explanation.

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What about remembering your loved ones, either absent or deceased in your welcome speech? (Traditionally given by the father of the bride).  In the photo below, you see three of my four daughters, myself and my husband.  My husband, father of the bride, is welcoming all. His speech was touching and eloquent.

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And my favorite of all?  Well, that would have to be the photo below.  My parents, who live in California, were not able to travel to my daughter’s New England wedding.  (Dad will be 98 this year, Mom is significantly younger), so what did they do, being the modern folk they are?  They Facetimed the wedding!  Thanks to our great family friend, Becca, they were able to enjoy the wedding. They opened a bottle of bubbly and joined the celebration!  And a special thank you to our photographer extraordinaire, Hannah Colt, for capturing it.

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Hannah Colt Photos

 

 

Summer Bride

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Guess what Ladies… If you’re getting married in the next couple of months – you will be one of the lucky ones… a summer bride!

While each season has it’s benefits, such as a beautiful winter wedding dress – click on the link winter wedding to see some beautiful options, or a variety of flowers for a spring affair, (click on spring wedding to read my post about some festive ideas for flowers, cocktails and more!), a summer wedding also has some pitfalls.  But if you’re prepared, you don’t need to worry.

I was reading an article on “She Finds” the other day, and it had some topics to address for summer weddings.  Half I’d thought of, or planned for my own daughters’ weddings, and the other half, which I’ll address in a future posts, I had not.

  1. Remember to have a can or two each of bug spray and sunscreen for guests.  Chances are you’ll spend at least some time outside, so take care of your guests. You can provide these items in either baskets in your outside venue or in the ladies room/gentlemans’ rooms.   Click on Ladies Room Baskets  or Men’s Room Baskets for more details.
  2. Consider ‘Fruit Centerpieces’ instead of flowers.  No wilting here!  Click on Fruit the New Garnish for more details.

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3.  Consider personal fans for your guests, and better yet…make a wedding program into a fan.  I did this for my “Summer Wedding Daughter”  Click on, Program Fans for more details.

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4.  If you live in Southern California, you probably won’t have to worry about this next one… but if you like in the South, Midwest, or New England, take it to heart.  PREPARE FOR RAIN.  As you get within 10-14 days of your wedding, check the forecast, constantly.  If it looks like it could POSSIBLY rain, get a rain tent on hold.  Many companies have a “rain provision”.  This can include anything from making a deposit, and if it rains, the tent is yours for the remainder of the rental fee… but if you don’t use it, you are out your deposit — to renting a tent and making a gamble – i.e. you’re out the whole price of the tent.  If it looks like rain two days before, buy a couple of cute umbrellas for you and the groom.  Depending on your venue’s physical arrangement, you may want to purchase a few more for your guests.  It rained on daughter #2’s day… it happens…

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Next time…a few more items I didn’t think of, but “Shefinds.com” did, and advantages of summer and fall weddings…

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Wedding Gown Trains

 

If you opt for a wedding gown train, you have many choices.

In this post, I’ll tell you about three of the many types:  ChapelCathedralRoyal, and Monarch trains.

 

The Chapel Train is 3 and a half feel long.  It is measured from the waist.  This train is formal, but not unwieldy. It gives a bride a graceful silhouette.

The Cathedral Train is 6 and a half to 7 and a half feet long, also measured from the waist.  If a bride chooses this train length, and she wishes to wear a veil, she needs to select a cathedral length veil.  The train and veil thus compliment each other, and there is no break in the lines of either.  This was my daughter’s choice.  You can see Maggie and her groom in the photo below:

 The Royal Train is no less than ten feet long, measuring from the waist.  This train is reserved for a grand ceremony, and the clothing selections for the attendants and guests should be in keeping with it’s tone.  The venue screams cathedral, not a country church.

The final train style is the Monarch Train. This train is twelve feet or longer from the waist.  This train is usually only seen in a royal wedding venue.  Think the beautiful and icon Diana, Princess and Wales, and HRH Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge.  Of course, anyone can wear this train, but if you DO choose it, keep in mind that at least 2 attendants will need to aide you in your walk up and down the isle…

**File Photo** Diana, Princess of Wales, wearing an Emanuel wedding dress, enters St. Paul's Cathedral on the hand of her father, Earl Spencer, for her marriage to Charles, Prince of Wales on 29 July 1981. **Not for publication in France. Available for publication in the rest of the world** Featuring: **File Photo** When: 12 Apr 2010 Credit: WENN

Next time, we’ll talk bustles, as you MUST have one is your dress sports a train!

Thanks to Jenny Evans from www.wedding.lds.com for all the excellent information.

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