Your wedding seating…It doesn’t have to be in a straight line. If you have an outdoor wedding, and weddings in the summer and fall are often outdoors, you can arrange the seating how you wish. This option is a definite advantage over a church wedding. While a church wedding is of vital importance to many, it means little to others. In a church, you can not alter your seating arrangement. But in an outdoor venue you can.
If you choose an outdoor setting, I challenge you to think outside the box. Try to choose the best option so the most people can enjoy your wedding ceremony with a clear view. I know so many put the emphasis on the party following, but really…what is the real purpose of a wedding? It’s the joining of two people into one, the joining of two families. The top two photos employ the circular approach. The top photo showcases the bridal couple at the top of the semicircle, the second picture centers the bride and groom in middle of the guests for optimal viewing. The photo below is from a wedding where I was the coordinator. The bride, groom, family and attendants were at the front in a semi-circle with the guests in a traditional formation behind. I think of all the configurations on this page, this is my favorite. Was the idea mine? No. It was the bride’s and it was brilliant. It was my first time seeing it, and I would encourage any bride to use this plan. The family and attendants were really a part of the rite, and the guests had a good view as well.
Mary P. Karnes photo
If your ceremony is a rustic, short one, what about the hay bales on planks below? It think it’s novel and cute. A word or caution…If you’re going to sit directly on the hay bales, pad them wth blankets. Those stray pieces of straw can poke one!
In mind for something really funky? Just check out the seating from the photo below. While lovely…not very practical. Love it though. Remember, whatever you decide, nothing is wrong. If you like it, it’s perfect.
One of the many things I love about being a wedding planner/coordinator, is to see new trends first hand. The Tree Planting Ceremony is just such a trend. The wedding I worked last weekend had a lovely “Tree Planting Ceremony”. The bride and groom chose a sapling, planted it in a beautiful pot, and then add soil from their respective childhood homes. It is to symbolize the unifying of two families.
There are a variety of ways to go about this. The couple above used a small pot, and I would imagine it will remain inside their home. The size of the container will keep the tree small and manageable. The couple below, however…have something different in mind.
It appears that they are either planting a tree at their venue to be enjoyed by other guests in the future, or their are planting it at their home. Perhaps they had a home wedding? I’m not sure using a shovel in my beautiful white wedding dress would be up my alley, but to each his – OR – her own. 🙂
Mail order companies are getting in on the act of the “Tree Planting Ceremony”. You can now order on-line a pre-fab kit to do the honors. Not a bad idea, although you still might want to provide your own soil from your special locations.
What about getting your guests involved in tree planting? The photo above showcases tiny saplings that are used as favors and escort cards to find your reception seats. I love this. I imagine a good deal of work went into the assembling of these favors, though.
And just think…maybe your tree/trees will someday look like these photos. Yes, it will take years, but hopefully so will your marriage.
Ah…The Calm Before The Storm. There is something so pristine about a ceremony venue before it fills with guests. It’s almost as if it’s waiting with baited breath to start the joyful union of two souls. Soon, it will be filled with the bride and groom’s nearest and dearest. The friends of their parents, their our friends, and family will find their seats and wait with great anticipation for the excitement to begin.
Weddings touch us. They bring back the happiest of times for us all. Maybe you remember being the flower girl at your aunt’s wedding, or the ring bearer at your uncle’s. Perhaps you are daydreaming about your own wedding, and the joy you felt that day. Or, holding your baby girl, you hope to someday be “Mother of the Bride.”
I’ve been “Mother of the Bride” twice now, and as happy as I was on MY wedding day, I think I felt every MORE joy, holding the hand of my husband as we watched our two girls marry their soul-mates.
When you meet with your photographer for your “Pre-ceremony” pow-wow to discuss your wedding photography “vision”, (and if your photographer doesn’t suggest this, request a meeting), ask for a few shots of the “Calm Before the Storm.” Ask that he/she please take a few photos of the tranquil perfection of the venue before the guests descend.
I have included a few pictures that I have taken from weddings I’ve worked. Some are from churches, some outdoors. They are all beautiful in their own way. Then top photo was taken by the lovely Patty Cloherty, the remaining photos by me.
I rather like the outdoor wedding, but as we are Roman Catholic, one must be married in the physical building of the church. A compromise perhaps? How about a wedding with just the bride, groom, parents and priest in the church, and then the next day, a blow out outdoor wedding?
I wrote a couple of posts about being a good wedding guest…how about one about being a good host? I was reading an article from she finds.com and it raised some good points. I have taken a few topics from the article and will give you my perspective on the issues and perhaps some personal antidotes…
Please be sensitive to guests’ special needs, whether it be dietary or physical. I’m working with a bride who’s wedding is approaching. She has already assigned a special chair for an elderly guest on the end of an aisle. It’s that type of thoughtfulness that your guests will remember.
Sadly, meal requests are often overlooked. My aunt attended a wedding recently and was horrified to learn that the mother of the groom’s special meal was forgotten – she has a peanut allergy! Not only insensitive, but deadly! As the bride or hosts of the wedding, if you see that a guest has a special meal request, make a note of it in your wedding diary, and remember to remind the catering staff the week of the wedding. Or better yet, have your wedding coordinator make that reminder call for you!
This came to me from my oldest daughter, who is entering the wedding frenzy era of her life. Said my oldest, “I wish the bride and groom wouldn’t choose foods that aren’t notorious for sticking in your teeth!” “What exactly do you mean,” KK, I asked. “Well, think how glue-like spinach is to your teeth, or how crackers with seeds seem to find their way into an unseemly spot! Really!” You know what, I agree! Let’s avoid those foods!
Ok, I know the above photo is the ideal place for a wedding reception cocktail hour. But even it could get a little old if guests are waiting TOO long for the bridal couple to make their grand entrance. Try to keep your “Cocktail Hour Photo Session” as short as possible. Get as many individual shots as you can BEFORE the wedding. This way the cocktail hour picture session can be reserved for the bride and groom together, with their families, and attendants.