Will you have an “Over the Top Wedding Cake”? Weddings are the most personalized event you will ever attend OR host. There is no right, or wrong. Just your preferred tastes. I happen to like the wedding cake as a decorating item. Remember…wedding cake servings are far far smaller than a restaurant size dessert serving. If served properly, your guests will receive only a sliver of cake.
If I have 100 guests, I order a cake for 150-175, then order different cake flavors for different layers. This way guests have a choice. Most often, a bride will choose to have a cake. Why not spend a little extra, and make it a decorating piece like the cakes featured on this post? Yes you’ll spend a little more, but how much would you spend on more flowers or decorations? Thinking guests don’t favor wedding cake as much as other desserts these days? You’d be right. Pies have become quite the thing this season, especially in the summer and fall. Most bridal couples still have a ‘small cake’ to cut and hopefully a portion to save.
Think you’ll ever have to cut and serve a wedding cake? Probably not…but just in case, click on the link and read how it’s done. It’s interesting, and quite an art. How to Cut a Wedding Cake. The above cake is exceptional. I like the photography as well, just a small glimpse of the cake. But I do hope the wedding photographer got a shot of the entire cake. It wouldn’t be one to miss!
Fresh flowers definitely add to the lushness of a cake. And I like all the 3-D work the baker applied to this cake, even if it’s not in the photographer’s focus. But do flowers need to be real to LOOK real? No, just look at my daughter’s cake below. The flowers aren’t real, but spun sugar!
Thank you to my lovely models…photo cred: Patty Cloherty
First 4 photos, theknot
Think you’re the most thoughtful guest? Think again. I do believe that honor belongs to a mentor of my husband. I was tackling my major summer project, that of purging the basement. What a chore. I tend to be a pack rat, and well…we’ve been married almost 33 years… Yes, that’s us 32.65 years ago at our wedding in Ojai, California, my home town. If you’d like to read more about Ojai, and it’s “Destination Wedding” options, just click on the link!
I found the above letter in my cleaning frenzy yesterday. I hate to admit it, but I had forgotten I possessed it. I knew that it was old based on the address on the envelope. But I must digress a little.
You know how important First Year Anniversaries are? They really are a big deal… I had frozen the top layer of our wedding cake, and my darling husband dutifully ate it. He recently told me that it was awful. 🙁 I don’t remember how it tasted. But if you’d like to save the top layer of your wedding cake, or a portion, click on the following link, and check out the way to do it right! Saving the Top Layer of Your Wedding Cake. And to Defrost it.. Defrosting Your Wedding Cake 🙂
But back to my story…As you know, each anniversary year has a gift assigned to it. For the first anniversary, it’s paper. Kenny and I received the above letter, with a most gracious note from his friend, mentor and fraternity associate. And inside…was a cocktail napkin from our reception. It took us both back and was a most thoughtful reminder of a beautiful day. Below, is a circle of Kenny’s fraternity brothers, (Kenny’s mentor is a patron), singing to us at our reception. We are in the middle of the circle. I can barely make us out.
And here we are below, 30 years later at our daughter’s wedding. Time does fly.
Photo: Patty Cloherty
What about a destination wedding – held at your alma mater?
My alma mater is the University of Redlands, located in Redlands, CA – an hour from the beach, an hour from ski resorts, an hour from Palm Springs, an hour from LA. Does it get much better than that?
I’m not sure of the fees for holding a private event at the University. I don’t discuss fees on my blog – I could be wrong, or fees could change. I am making an assumption, however, that an alumnus may receive a better deal that someone who is not. Above you see the exterior and interior of the University of Redlands Memorial Chapel – a work of art. This would be a very traditional spot to say, “I do!”. But not the only one…
The photos above and below are of the Greek Theatre. It is where large groups of students convene, and where graduation is held. Above, you see a wedding party taking advantage of the great photo op. Perhaps they were actually married on the stage. Below, is my own photo of my daughter’s freshman orientation held at the Greek Theatre.
Mary P. Karnes photos
The ‘Hall of Letters’, where I attended most of my classes, is another lovely wedding site. I don’t know…For me…. I think I’d start having flashbacks to a test I needed to take… 🙂
The Alumni House, formally the University of Redlands President’s residence when I was a student, is another great venue. I was a bridesmaid in a wedding held there once upon a time. The gazebo makes for a most romantic setting.
And below — the majestic Office of the Registrar. Even if you don’t have your ceremony there, the photo opportunities are many. And yes, it really is that beautiful…
Love the resort town of Ojai, CA, week-end kick-back of the stars? But are the prices of venues like the Ojai Valley Inn and Spa a little out of your price range? You DO have options… The photo above is the beautiful gazebo in the lovely Libby Park – right on Ojai Ave, Ojai’s “Main Street”. Can’t you see yourself getting married here?
Above, another shot of the interior of Libby Park. There is a very famous tennis tournament played every May in Ojai – the “Ojai Tennis Tournament”. All the greats played there when they were rising stars. Libby Park is where the finals are held.
Want a religious ceremony? There are plenty of churches in town that don’t require membership to allow you to marry at their place of worship. (Not the Cathoic Church, of course. One must prove all your sacraments are in tact and are a member of good standing in their parish – (If you’d like to read about a Catholic Wedding, click on the link).
One such church, is my home church growing up, the Ojai Presbyterian Church.
Perhaps things have changed since my wedding, but then, non-members were allowed to marry in their church. Below is a picture my new husband and myself in front of the Ojai Presbyterian Church 32 years ago.
Where to go for your reception? Parks are a nice option for a low cost affair. Rental costs are minimal, and then you have the choice of supplying your own food or having it catered. Be warned, however… if you hold your reception in a park, they may have a “no alcohol” policy.
Holding the reception in the nearby beach town of Ventura is another lovely choice.
The beautiful two photos are of Ventura, via Facebook. I’m a little partial to Ventura…I was born there. 🙂