Sisters Brides Best Attendants


Sisters – brides’ best attendants.  I was not blessed with any siblings, but my daughters are.  The have three sisters, four girls in all.  Above is one of my favorite photos of the girls together…ok…perhaps the photo below is my favorite.  As my oldest, the bride in the photo below says, “This picture is the Original ” ‘Til Death Due Us Part’.”  Yes it is…yes it is.


Or maybe my favorite is this photo…the day I became a mother-in-law for the first time…


But this must be my favorite of all…when my most recent son-in-law became my son.  So what is the same about all these photos?  The four girls in them.  There will most likely be four weddings.  We have had two already.  Who will be the SAME in all the photos?  Who will stand up at the ceremony, who will throw the showers, the bachelorettes, give the bride a hug when she is over-wrought?  Her sisters.  Who will grin and bear it when the bride has a melt-down and declares she is upset with all her bridesmaids, that no one is there for her?  Who else will wear the ugly dress, shoes and her hair exactly like the bride wishes, without complaint?  Her sisters.


So Brides To Be…if you are lucky enough to be blessed with sisters, always include them, always pull them in, always choose them above all others to be in your wedding.  No one will ever be the biggest constant in your lives.   No one..

So if it comes down to a college room mate, a childhood friend, a new friend or your sister.  Always, always choose the girl who grew up with you, who shares your parents, who knows you best, and always will.

Destination Wedding – Ojai, CA!


What about a destination wedding where the stars go to decompress, and MARRY?  I’m talking about Ojai, California, where I grew up.  Ojai is home to an electic group of people — from the Ultra swank, ‘Ojai Valley Inn and Spa’ to posh prep schools – in order of prominence, 1) The Thacher School, 2) Villanova Prep, and 3) The Ojai Valley School – to religious gurus who prize the small natural valley. (Supposedly it’s the smallest valley where the mountains run east and west AND north and south).


Photos #1 and #2 via Facebook. 🙂  The bell town to the right of the photo is our post office.

Ojai has been vacation home to the late Larry Hagman and Reece Witherspoon to name a few.  Will and Jada Smith to Kate Walsh have chosen to marry at the world famous Ojai Valley Inn and Spa. It’s one of my favorite, “happy places”, as well as my daughters’  My oldest, KK, celebrated her bachelorette party there.

My family still makes their home still in Ojai, and we try to visit at least twice a year.  We try to get  to OVI’s exceptional spa at least one day a trip.


Above, the women’s indoor hot tub



The exterior of the spa at night, and below one of the resort’s beautiful live oaks.


The last four photos are mine.  Rather proud my photography on those!  While I can not speak on the overnight accommodations, or their wedding packages/options, as I have yet to be a hotel guest or take a ‘wedding tour’, I WILL praise the spa. It is exceptional. I will report in a future post, if I made an overnight site visit and tour the wedding venue options. I’m sure it’s lovely, but not will to speak to what I haven’t thoroughly researched.

Perhaps you wish to marry in Ojai, but your budget is limited.  Tomorrow, I will explore THOSE options for you.


Wedding Trends 2016



Naked Cake

Wedding Trends 2016 …What’s old is new again…right?  Apparently…the once passé “Naked Cake” is baaaaackkk… I think they’re rather cleaver, and while it probably wouldn’t be MY first choice, being the traditionalist I am… I like the naked cake, and appreciate its beauty.  If you’d like to read an older blog post on “the naked wedding cake”, click on the following link.  Naked Cake


Photo: Brklyn View Photography

Cocktail Party/Station Receptions

What else is new on the horizon of weddings for 2016?  The cocktail party/station reception, INSTEAD of a formal sit down dinner will be big.  I have long been a proponent of this.  If you get a caterer’s package which includes passed hors de oeuvres, and other cocktail hour stations, you KNOW that by the time dinner is served, your guests aren’t all that hungry.  Their dinner and your money is, at times, wasted.  My husband and I attended a family wedding this past summer.  They were slightly ahead of the curve and hosted an unforgettable heavy hors de oeuvres reception. It was plentiful, filling, and the variety of options, enormous.


Above photo, a “cheesecake mini” – Mary P Karnes photos


Above, photo, “fruit and cheese station” – Mary P Karnes photos

Shareable Highlights


Photo: Maria Lamb Photography

Biggest projected wedding trend of 2016? — Video shorts of your wedding highlights; not the WHOLE wedding, just the highlights.  Great idea.  At my last daughter’s wedding, we had a slow motion video booth, which, while didn’t film of the entire wedding, did showcase the bride, groom and all the guests in a rather funny short.  My daughters didn’t want their weddings videoed.  They wanted to envision it as they remembered it…not necessarily as it was.  An interesting thought…  If you’d like to read the blog post and see the “slow motion video” click on the link.  🙂