Two Wedding Ceremonies



Would you consider two wedding ceremonies?   Europeans seem to have a civil ceremony on one day, and a religious one following.  Here in the United States, we have just one wedding ceremony.  Religious or civil, both are considered legal as long as the proper license is applied for and filed.

I was talking to a new friend about her pending wedding plans.  She is getting married next summer, but has a different twist to the process.  She and her fiancé are inviting only their immediate family – parents and siblings – to the wedding.  Their honeymoon is up next and two weeks later, the reception.  The norm, of course, is to have the reception/party immediately follow the ceremony.  I think her plan is brilliant.  Her nearest and dearest will be present when she and her fiancé become man and wife.  They will enjoy a rare intimacy.  Dinner after the wedding will be quiet and no one has to worry about small talk with people they barely know.  The atmosphere will be relaxed.  The honeymoon will also be stress-free, as the bride and groom will not be exhausted from a lavish affair.

Two weeks after the wedding, after a restful honeymoon, the reception will take place.  I think this may become a trend.  With this arrangement, the bride and groom can enjoy the entire experience.  I know when my daughter was married in June, we enjoyed every aspect of the wedding and reception, but we were all tired.  We may have enjoyed both ceremony and party more if we had had a break in-between.  But one must not forget there are often many more people who feel they should be at both wedding AND reception.  My family is the perfect example.  We had several out-of-state family members who wanted to attend both events…and we all wanted them to.
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Wedding Lingerie



Wedding Lingerie.  Not only do you want to look lovely in your wedding dress…you want to look lovely underneath it.  This can be a challenge, because pretty is not always practical.  And on your wedding day, of all days, your lingerie must get the job done.  Look at the beautiful dress above.  How can you wear a bra with it?  I know, I know…it almost looks like a negligé – but it’s not. Dresses with a sheer back necessitate strapless, backless, or even sideless bras.  Now you’re thinking, what’s the point?  But believe it or not, you have choices.  Two options: 1) cups sewn into the dress, or 2) self adhesive cups – which can be purchased from such vendors as Victoria’s Secret.


The corset/bustier above is gorgeous.  A bride would have to wear the right dress to sport a foundation of this sort- but it’s appeal is great.  Not only is it pretty, a combination shaper and bra… but it’s also modest.  Because, think about it, you will need help changing from your wedding dress to your ‘going away’ dress.  Do you really want your mother, bridesmaids, and maybe even your new mother-in-law seeing you in your all together?  And it’s vital to leave your wedding gown with a trusted family member before  you say good-bye for the night.  Your gown must be professionally cleaned and preserved as soon as humanly possible.



I’m a big fan of a bridal garter belt. I think silk stockings, (versus panty hose), is a romantic, old fashioned look.  There are some lacy sets above… and who says they have to be white??

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The Fifty Shades of White




Ha!  Did that get your attention?  🙂

According to, there are five shades of white that are most commonly used by wedding gown designers.  To quote her:

“What are the Many Shades of White?

The names given to colors can be confusing. Here are some of the most commonly used names for white, which are standard in the industry:

Stark White or Bright White

The purest, starkest white almost glows, and is particularly striking against dark skin. It is also the most difficult shade to wear, as it can drain the color from fair and medium skin tones.

Champagne White

This is a beautiful white with a slight pink undertone. In photos and low light, it looks nearly white but adds richness to olive or sallow skin. A slightly deeper version of this shade is sometimes called Rum White.



There is a great deal of variation in shades of ivory, which is the most universally flattering hue for brides. Be sure to hold a color swatch of any ivory next to your face to see how it plays against your skin and eye color. Some have creamy, warm undertones while others have a slightly pinker tint. Eggshell is one of the lighter shades of ivory.



This is a somewhat deeper shade of ivory with a beige-cream undertone. The name refers to the fact that it is meant to appear white under candlelight. It’s especially fitting for evening weddings, when its richness and depth will be set off to best advantage.



The deepest shade of ivory available, ecru borders on tan or beige. The name refers to the unbleached or raw color of linen. If you are looking for something that is less traditional and has some depth, ecru is worth trying out.”


Ok…You now know the names of the “Fifty Shades of White”(well, really only about 5), …but what’s best for you?  It’s important to remember, not all designers have all the white color choices for the gown you have picked out.  Sometimes they only have two or sometimes three of the above shades.  So now the question…Do you choose your dress first, or the shade of white you want?  My advice is – chose the dress first! That is how we chose KK and Maggie’s wedding dresses.  They picked the dress, and then chose the color that best fit their skin tone from the available options.

A quick lesson on what might look best on you?  To quote again:

“If you have very fair skin, a warm shade of white with a touch of yellow in it will add some warmth and a glow to your skin. A stark white will only wash you out.

If you have sallow or olive skin, whites with a pink undertone (sometimes called cool whites) will balance things and give you a fresh, dewy look. Shades to consider might be champagne or rum white. You can also wear silk white, which is slightly less stark than pure white.

If you have medium skin that is pinker or has blue undertones, try some of the creamier ivories and whites. These have a rich yellow undertone that will keep you from looking too flushed and red, and will complement your complexion.

If you’re a dark-skinned bride, almost any shade of white will look lovely against your skin. The only exception may be if you are dark-skinned with olive undertones—in that case, try to steer clear of yellow-ivory shades.”

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Don’t stress about it too much…I have never seen a bride that wasn’t beautiful!
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Engagement Rings!



You’re engaged!  One of the most exciting things about your new status is the engagement ring.  So many options.  But the point today is not that of engagement rings…but the place to store them.  When my girls got engaged, I gave each a ring holder.  Because to quote myself… “That ring belongs on your finger or on your ring holder.” Why are rings lost? They are often lost to just carelessness.  One thinks, “I’ll just slip my ring off and jump in the shower.  I’ll put my ring here on the counter…”  and then… you forget….


Why not gift yourself with a cute little ring holder?  There are lots and lots of choices.  The top picture is my FAVORITE!  So very cute, but practical for everyday ring storage??  Not so much… Love the green tray with the initials.  This one has room for a couple of rings.


What about a ring holder in the shape of your favorite pet?  KK was the recipient of a dachshund ring holder – in honor of our little dog, Buddy.
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Think your fiancé may have trouble remembering either your engagement date or wedding?  How about this ring holder with an embossed date?


Ha!  This ring holder is too cute.  It looks like maybe something a child made in art class.  And bonus…it would hold at LEAST five rings!


And there’s nothing wrong with a classic ring holder like this Waterford piece.  It never goes out of style, and will look good with any decor.  Next time…all about jewelry insurance…in case the ring holder doesn’t work….

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