A Special Post… We all know…Life just ain’t fair. As our youngest, Julia, often you missed out on things your older sisters enjoyed. But sometimes…you were rewarded with a treat. Such is the case with this post. I wrote no such tribute when your sisters left for college, but as the last to leave the nest, you will be honored.
EB Taylor Photos
I remember when you were about two. I had had a particularly trying day with my four children. I had a daydream. It was years in the future, and we had just dropped you off at college; your dad was on a business trip…and I was alone. Blissfully, shockingly alone. That day is quickly approaching, and as is often the case, it is not as I imagined. I don’t yearn for it, but dread it. Do not get me wrong. I am so thrilled about the woman you have become, the women all our daughters have become. I know you are ready. But is my heart breaking just a tad? Yes, yes it is. Who am I now? I am no longer the mom of four young girls who need me daily. But always know, I’m here for you every hour of every day.
Above, the day you were born. Our family was now complete. My heart was at peace. I yearned for no other children.
And with your sisters. Julia, you are not just my baby…
Above with your new brothers…
Julia, please be true to yourself… as you always have been. Let your spirit soar.
And don’t forget your dear old mom… I love you.
Photo #4 – Stephan Wang
Photo #5- Hannah Rachael Colt
I so often attend weddings and ask myself, “Why didn’t I think of that?” I am constantly amazed at the creativity of others. Frequently, an innovative wedding idea is born from using products in a way that is different from their original intent. Take the “Cake Canopy” below. It is an after market bed canopy. I recognize it, as I purchased one many moons ago for one of my daughters. She felt like a “princess” in it. 🙂 But this product is also the perfect covering for a wedding cake. It protects your cake from the elements, while still being able to be seen.
While the two heel protector products below are not new, I couldn’t write a blog post about innovative ideas and not include them. I think the concept is brilliant, but according to brides who have used them, they are less then perfect.
And below, behold…and old wash tub, a little water, candles and flowers and pow…you have a beautiful decorating item.
How cute are these champagne flutes below? I’m not positive how to create these delightful glasses, but I imagine a little black electrical tape, white ribbon, a hot glue gun, a gold pipe cleaner, and white tulle – done! Adorable!
If you’re planning an outdoor wedding, bug spray is a must. But I’ve noticed that guests get a wee bit impatient waiting for the spray bottles. The option below, providing individual packets, is fabulous! It’s always a good idea to purchase extras too. If you have 100 guests in attendance, make sure you purchase at least 150 bug repellent packets. Someone will want to reapply.
Flowers in your hair? Or will you choose a veil? Some brides today choose to forgo the traditional veil and meet their groom bareheaded, or with an alternative to a veil. The most common choice is flowers. It’s a lovely choice, especially for a spring or summer wedding. Below are a few gorgeous options.
A particular favorite is the photo below. I love the bright colors in contrast to the bride’s white gown.
One of the most famous brides to opt for flowers AND a veil? Miss Sarah Ferguson, who married Prince Andrew and became the HRH, Sarah The Duchess of York. Proper aristocratic etiquette is that only MARRIED aristocratic women wear tiaras. Here, Sarah adheres to the mandate, wearing orange blossoms under her veil. As soon as she was married, signed the marriage license, and returned to the public eye in Westminster Abbey? She sported the tiara the Queen gave her as a wedding gift. Legend has it that the tiara was already in place under all those orange blossoms. Not sure I buy into that, but I like the story. Look how happy she is. Too bad that level of joy could not be maintained.
Perhaps you want to wear a veil, but want a little something to adorn your hair when the veil comes off at the reception. Below is a picture of my daughter, Maggie. That was her choice. She wore my headpiece, her own veil, and a small floral decoration for after the wedding ceremony. A nice compromise. Remember, if you choose to do this, take your “flowers” to your hair appointment so your stylist can attach them for you. The photo below is by Stephen Wang. It’s from my wedding business Instagram. Perhaps you’d like to follow? 🙂 @marypkarnesweddings
Above is daughter Kathleen with her “after ceremony” wreath. She also wore my headpiece with her own veil. I love this tradition!
I sometimes think wedding guests should read up on wedding etiquette before attending a wedding, not just the bride and groom. Below, I have listed my 5 biggest ‘Wedding Guest Bloopers’ or to be more blunt, my pet peeves.
Female guests, do not, repeat DO NOT wear a white dress to a wedding. This is not ok. Times have not changed to allow for this. Exceptions:
- If a bride REQUESTS an “All White Wedding”, and asks her guests to wear white, then do it! (Think Kim Kardashian’s second marriage)
- Often attendants in the UK wear white, think Kate Middleton.
Dear Wedding Guests!! Under no circumstances highjack the photographer during Cocktail Hour when most couples take bride/groom, and family photos. Yes, you may have a daughter or son in the bridal party, and would “just love to get a quick snap” with him/her. But remember…weddings are run on a very tight timeline. Not only are you potentially throwing it off, but you are taking away from the bride and groom’s “Cocktail Hour” time with their guests. Talk to your photographer, wedding coordinator, or even your mom in advance to gently encourage theses guests to return to the party if this situation occurs. There will probably be time later in the evening after all the mandatory wedding shots are taken.
DON’T BE LATE TO THE CEREMONY!!
I am constantly shocked at the number of guests who arrive AFTER the ceremony has started. A good guest should arrive, at a minimum, 15-20 minutes before the start of the wedding. If something unavoidable occurs and you must be late, stand in the back if it’s an outdoor ceremony, or wait outside of the church or synagogue until an appropriate time to enter. Don’t interrupt the proceedings!
Do not bring packages to the reception. Cards are fine, but if you choose to give a gift from the couple’s registry or some other wrapped item, send it to the bride’s home. Remember, someone at the end of the evening has to make sure all those gifts get safely home.
Don’t drink too much. Yes usually the alcoholic beverages are included complimentary for the guests. But don’t be that guest who causes a scene. Remember to eat as you consume alcoholic beverages. And if you’re driving, make sure you get an uber, or designated driver if your transportation is provided by the hosts.