Are You Fit For Your Wedding?



Are you fit for your wedding? This question is not directly only to the bride, but to the bridesmaids, mothers of the bride and groom, etc. Usually, you’ll have a while to prepare, but best advice…don’t procrastinate!

1)Start with a healthy diet. You can loose weight, provided you wish to, easier than you think. Just eat well. If you wish to really drop some poundage, consult your doctor. He/she will help you accomplish this safely.


2) Exercise! Time to tone up that bod! With the internet, there is not excuse to avoid finding a plan that will work for you.

The above link focuses on the arms. If you have to pick one area to work on, the arms would be the one most likely exposed and in need of toning. Again, check with your doctor if you have any reservations.

3) Use healthy products, it will show in your skin. One outstanding line is Poofy Organics Click on the link, you’ll be impressed. They will ship to anywhere in the country. I’m a big fan of their products and use them myself. IMG_1064

4) Consider a facial treatment schedule for your skin. Perhaps begin 6 months before your wedding, get an appointment for a facial. But DO NOT decide to have a facial for the first time a few weeks before the big day — you may have several breakouts, as facials initially pull impurities from the skin – resulting in spots.

5) Stay out of the sun! If you MUST have a little color before your wedding, choose a gentle self tanner, and try it out a good month before the big day. has a great article on self-tanners with pros and cons of several products.



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Advice For the Bridal Couple, and All Couples

Advice for the Bridal Couple

Perhaps an appropriate post on this Good Friday… A repost from my former blog… Advice for the Bridal Couple – and All Couples

From my long time, dear friend, Liz: “On Valentine’s Day at the Vatican City, Pope Francis offered advice to 25,000 couples that the recipe for marital success lies in saying three simple words:  “Please, thanks and sorry.”  He said that expressions of courtesy, gratitude and contrition go a long way toward conserving and enhancing love over time.  “Never finish the day without making peace!” he begged the couples.  “Because if you end the day without making peace, what you have inside becomes hard and cold and it becomes harder to make peace the following day.”

This advice knows no religious bounties. It’s for everyone. Food for thought. Thanks, Liz!

Remember These 10 Things, Continued

Don’t Forget 10 Things Post Ceremony … Remember These 10 Things, Continued

Linda Dipropeazio, from the article, “10 Things Brides Forget To Do After Their Wedding Ceremony” from she makes a great list of things a bride often forgets to do…and I’ve added personal narrative to her worthy catalog.

So began yesterday’s post   Remember These 10 Things Post Ceremony (click on the link if you’d like to read it), …and I will continue with the other 5 items today.

6)  Don’t forget to look at your ceremony venue.  I remember walking to the door of the church when I married almost 32 years ago, and momentarily being surprised when I realized I couldn’t go in and listen to the vocalists.  Which is silly, I know.  But I kind of felt left out (suffering from today’s version of FOMO).  And when someone complimented me on the beautiful flowers in the church, I couldn’t picture them.  In fact I had to wait…and wait… and wait… to see the church flowers in the photographer’s photos.  So Linda’s advice, and mine too…take a moment to look at your church or other ceremony venue and appreciate it.


Above, my own wedding ceremony site, the Ojai Presbyterian Church.  The photo at the time was supposed to look ‘antique’ – ha!  It really is now!  Maybe you can see a few blooms on the pews and up by the alter.  (If this photo appears sideways on your mobil or table device, my apologies!)

7) Don’t forget to remove your veil after the ceremony/formal photo session (provided you wear one).  For other ideas, read my blog post: “Alternatives to the Veil” – Just click on the link.  You may want to consider an additional head piece.  Both my daughters did.


Not sure if you can see the wreath in daughter, Kathleen’s, hair above.  It was lovely, and left her free to move and dance.  It also had long ribbons streaming down her back, which gave a nice dimension to her strapless gown.

8)  Don’t forget important items either at the ceremony or reception sites, or both.  Ask a trustworthy family member or friend to make sure they pick up your toasting glasses, guest book, unity candle, etc. at the end of the night.

9) Don’f forget to put your engagement ring back on.  Remember…your wedding ring goes nearest to your heart.  So for your ceremony, you had to take your engagement ring off in order to put your wedding ring on FIRST.


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10)  Don’t forget to thank your bridal party.  These people purchased crazy attire, listened to you complain, allowed you to order them around, and are your best friends.  Say, “Thank you!”  🙂


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Advice to My Daughter


Advice to my daughter…

On your wedding day, my daughter Kathleen, you will inherit the platinum art deco engagement ring of your great-grandmother.  Tradition dictates that it goes to the first born daughter of each new generation.  While not of great monetary value, it is great of sentiment.

I was so concerned, during my tenure with the ring, of protecting it for the next generation, that I rarely wore it.  Yes it is old and fragile, being just twelve years shy of it’s century mark, but wear it.

I will pass the ring on to you on your wedding day, as it was to me from my mother, but while I do so with a glad heart, I also feel a mild sense of loss.  I really don’t know the ring, and never made it mine.  Make it yours, wear it, enjoy it, and all the while, take good care.  It was your dear Great-Grams, after all…In the photo above, my Grandmother, KK’s Great-Gram, is pictured with my mother.  Mom is about three. Below is “Great-Gram” in her later years.  Our youngest, little Julia her name-sake, is kissing her.  My Dad is holding little Julia.


And start a new tradition…I wouldn’t be at all surprised if Grammie will share the beautiful abalone butterfly Gramps made for her, which you will attach in your bridal bouquet.  Hopefully, future generations will follow suit…


My Dad took the picture above of my mother well before I was born.  Mom was quite a fisherwoman!  She is a true natural honey blond – she is where KK get’s her coloring…well from her dad too.   I can’t take all the credit.  🙂


And above…the beautiful butterfly carving from abalone shell made by my father for my mother.  To be showcased in a bridal bouquet… what a romantic start for a lovely piece.

Photos # 1 Unknown

Photo # 2 Mary P Karnes

Photo # 3  Bill Paredes Photos

Photo # 3  Mary P Karnes