Who Will Walk You Down the Aisle?

Who will walk you down the aisle?  There is a new trend in town…many brides are opting to have BOTH their parents walk them down the aisle.  This is a great honor, and quite touching.  My thoughts, as ‘Mother of the Bride’? I didn’t do it with my first two daughters, and don’t plan to with the last two.  While this is a purely personal decision, I think a ‘mother of the bride’ misses an iconic moment in her life, and that of her daughter’s, if she doesn’t watch her little girl make that life changing march.

Would you want to miss either of the photos below?

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I’m not saying to miss the fun “Mother/Daughter” photos, because they are to be cherished, but perhaps before or after the cermony?

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I love the image below.  This bride’s father and step-father put their daughter first and created a united bond to escort her down the aisle. This is love.

The point can be argued that the “mother of the bride” can enjoy her daughter recessing UP the aisle with her new husband.  I agree, but there is just something so tender about the iconic combo of the bride and her father.  But then some brides are not lucky enough still have their dads in their lives.  This creates other issues, and yes, stress.  And you, the “MOB” must do whatever it takes to make your daughter comfortable and happy.  Hasn’t that been your job all her life?

Do THIS At Your Wedding…

Want to know the best tips to follow at your wedding?  Do THIS at your wedding…

If you send a “Save the Date” to a guest, you must send a wedding invitation. If you’re unsure about whether or not to invite someone, skip the “Save the Date”.  You can always invite them later. Likewise, if you invite a lady to your bridal shower, you must invite her to the wedding. This is just being a gracious bride.

For a guide about  whom to invite to your wedding, click on the link: Wedding Guest List

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Ah…the “Plus Ones”  This can be a minefield for you when planning your budget, and seating chart.  It can also be a source of anxiety for your guests.  Be very clear on your wedding invitations.  If you are only inviting a single person, his/her name, “Mr. John Doe” goes on the outside envelope with “John” on the inner envelope.  I highly recommend the two envelope invitation option, as it helps clarify exactly who is invited.  Sometimes people will not keep the outer envelope, and then not know  whether they have a plus one or not!  If you are giving a guest a “Plus One”, the outer envelope says, “Mr. John Doe” and “Ms. Jane Smith”. The inner envelope will say, “John and Jane”.  There is no confusion this way. Not sure of your guest’s date’s name?  Outer envelope, “Mr. John Doe”, inner envelope, John and Guest.

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Shoes… If you must wear the high heels for the ceremony, GO FOR IT!  But consider something comfortable and cute like the Kids below for the reception!  You’ll be glad you did.

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Love the heel savers below for that damp and soft grass at the ceremony and/or reception!

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Although it may seem like a little thing, try to keep your bouquet at “belly button” level.  This will insure it’s admired, but not the focal point of your entire ensemble.

Eat.  I can’t say this enough. Eat breakfast, eat before the wedding, eat during the wedding.  Make it a priority. You’ll enjoy the day more, and definitely the day after. 🙂

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Five Things A Bride Should Not Do…

Five things a bride should not do…

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We all have heard what a bride SHOULD do…but what about what she should NEVER do?

NUMBER ONE — Never choose your dress BEFORE your venue.  Does this dress look like it is a good fit for a barn wedding?  While it strikes some’s fancy, it neither is the correct style for such a casual wedding, nor would it be easy to navigate.

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NUMBER TWO — Never, never pay for a planning session with a florist.  I know, I was surprised that some florists employed this scam.  I was more than happy with both florists we used for my daughters’ weddings. The subject of payment for a consultation/estimate was NEVER raised.  If a florist suggests such a thing, run.  And don’t look back.

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NUMBER THREE — Same goes for a cake tasting fee.  This is a courtesy. You should never be charged for a cake tasting.  I had a bad experience with my oldest daughter’s cake.  Luckily, I used my credit card for the second payment, and was able to dispute the charge.  Something to consider when you purchase your own cake.

 

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NUMBER FOUR — I think it’s safe to say, we women want to look spectacular on our wedding day. This includes hair and makeup.  But don’t look too different from the woman your fiancé fell in love with.  Put on a little sparkle, but look like yourself.  Your new husband will thank you, and you’ll like your wedding photos more.

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NUMBER FIVE— Don’t allow your toasting sessions to become a “Free For All”.  Have your DJ, Band Leader, or Wedding Coordinator enforce the number of approved toasts.  And about those “Approved Toasts”, be very clear with those presenting speeches how long you wish them to be.  My suggestion, allow two to three minutes per person.  An informal poll shows the toasting session is wedding guests’ least favorite part of the reception.

Things You Might Not Have Thought of For Your Wedding Day

Here are a few things you should think of before your wedding day …

  1. Try on your dress a week before the wedding! There may be a missing snap, a strap may need to be sewn, there could be a little makeup transferred from you to the dress the last time you tried it on (that can be easily removed if done properly and you have time!)

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2. Consider more than one pair of shoes for your big day.  Slippers to pad around in while getting ready, ceremony shoes, and dancin’ shoes!  One of my daughters chose the Keds below.  She danced all night and her feet never hurt!

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3. Schedule a meet with both your DJ and your photographer two weeks before your wedding.  That way you can select your music, and inform your photographer of “Must Have Shots”.

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Alright, I’ll admit the above photo is a candid taken by the groom’s aunt.  But some things can’t be staged.  Loved the look my son-in-law is giving my daughter…

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But perhaps you dream of a photo such as the one above…plan it out!

4. Get your ring STEAM cleaned.  No jewelry sparkles more than with a good stream clean.  I took time to do so on my wedding day, and I’m glad I did – although probably should have done it the day before…

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Photo creds: Photographer from Honeymoon in Jamaica

5. If you’re leaving the country for your honeymoon, locate your passport at least a week before your wedding.  If you have to get an emergency one, you’ll have time.  For more on that disaster potential, read bout my own story… The Lost Passport   That link is only part of the story…if you’d like to find out how it ends, you’ll have to go on a mini-scavenger hunt on this blog to find part II…  🙂